It is even harder to end a long term relationship.Since you have been in a relationship for a long time, your life is more intertwined and your feelings are likely to be deeper.If you are ready to end your relationship, there are ways to handle it.
Step 1: As soon as possible, tell your partner.
It's not going to help the situation if you delay the break up because you know how hard it will be.Staying with your partner after you know you want to leave them is not helpful to either of you.You need to drum up enough courage to end the relationship.It will be better for everyone.This does not mean that you should not think about your decision.You can't get rid of a break up easily.
Step 2: It's best to do it face to face.
It is a bad way to end a relationship if you don't have to see your partner's face.It will be difficult to tell your partner in person, but your relationship deserves more respect than that.Don't leave a voicemail, write them a letter, tell them over the phone, or let them know through email or social media.These are not nice.
Step 3: The right time is now.
It's never a good time to end a relationship, but there are better times to break the news.You should not tell your partner before you leave the house or when you have to go to work.This won't give you and your partner enough time to deal with the situation and give the attention it deserves.You should not tell them in public.
Step 4: You should be firm in your decision.
For a reason, you decided to end your relationship.You have to stand firm in your decision to end it.Let them know that you are unhappy and don't want to make it work.Make sure you don't give in to your partner's pleas if you know that your relationship will not last.The inevitable end to your relationship is being delayed.
Step 5: It's a good idea to practice your delivery.
When you break up with your partner, you will be emotional.It is helpful to practice what you will say before you talk to your partner.It will come out right if you can think through everything you want to say.If you type it out first, you can get your thoughts in order.
Step 6: Tell the truth.
Make sure you are honest when you end your relationship.You should tell your partner exactly why you want to end the relationship.In the long run, this will cause problems for you and your partner.You don't have to be harsh.Honesty doesn't have to hurt your partner's feelings.
Step 7: Stay calm.
When you are about to break up with your long term partner, getting riled up and tense is one of the worst things you can do.You will be more stressed out by this.Stressing about the process is not going to change it.As you decide the best way to tell your partner, take some time to relax.You want to explain why you broke up.It is possible, but it may be difficult.If you are stressed out, try to relax by reading or listening to music.
Step 8: The focus should be on the present.
You can't bring up the past when you're breaking up with your partner.Current and how your relationship is now are the reasons that you want to break it off.While telling your partner that your relationship is over, don't mention how bad it used to be.Adding salt to wounds will make the break up much harder.
Step 9: Don't be passive aggressive.
If you want your partner to end the relationship first, don't change your behavior.This will make the break up worse than it needs to be.Instead of trying to make your partner break up with you, approach the situation like an adult and be honest with them.Don't be mean towards your partner and life will be better for both of you.No one will benefit from this.
Step 10: Don't blame your partner.
If you don't want your break up to turn ugly, you should not blame anyone in the relationship.Break up with your partner in a way that doesn't place blame or sound accusatory, because relationships are complicated and never black and white.If your partner cheating on you is the reason for your break up, try to take the high road.The break up will be harder because of blame and bitterness.
Step 11: Private affairs should be kept to yourself.
People tend to overshare in the modern technology age.Don't slam your partner on social media when you're going through a break up.This will make the break up ugly.You want your relationship to be respected.You can talk to your friends about your break up on the phone or text message, but not on social media.
Step 12: It will take some time.
A long term relationship will not end over night.There is no easy break from your intertwined lives.mutual friends, possessions, and routines will make it difficult for you and your partner to communicate.When your relationship is not a factor, your life will change.This will take some time to get used to.Even if you are no longer in love with your partner, you will still have feelings.You may be emotional for a while after the break up.
Step 13: Don't worry about other things.
One of the best ways to move on is to pay attention to new things.You are doing things that don't remind you of your relationship.With the added bonus of enriching your life, this will help you heal.You can try new things to heal.You can start a new project, join a yoga class or take an art class.You can focus on something if you find something you enjoy.
Step 14: Stay with your family and friends.
You will need to rely on those around you after a break up.It will be emotional when you break off the relationship.When you're sad about your break up, lean on your family and friends.You need a support system to heal.You can spend more time with your friends and family by going out more or talking to them on the phone.When you're feeling down, this will help you.
Step 15: Go easy on yourself.
You won't go back to being happy and healthy after a break up.Don't beat yourself up if you're feeling stressed or down because of the break up.It will take some time to heal.You need to grieve your relationship in a healthy way so that you can move on.You may have issues later on if you push down your feelings.Your friends and family will understand that you need time to heal.
Step 16: Don't forget to take care of yourself.
You need to take care of yourself as you deal with your break up.Take some time to process your life without your partner.Even if you ended things, your feelings will still be complicated and intense.While you heal, make sure you pay attention to your mental and physical health.Don't let your break up affect your lifestyle.You should eat and exercise the way you normally would.If you didn't exercise or eat right before your break up, it's a good idea to change your routine to include healthier habits.