A person who has anti social personality disorder is called a sociopath.The disorder is characterized by a disregard for the feelings of others, a lack of remorse or shame, manipulative behavior, and the ability to lie in order to achieve one's goals.It's important to know if you're dating or an impossible coworker because Sociopaths can be very difficult to deal with.If you want to know how to spot a sociopath, you have to pay attention to what the person says.
Step 1: There should be a lack of shame.
Most of the time, sociopaths don't feel the least bit remorse for their actions.Physical abuse or the public humiliation of others may be included in such actions.If the person is a true sociopath, he or she will feel no remorse about hurting others, lying, manipulating people or just acting in an unacceptable way.When a person does something wrong, they are likely to blame others instead of themselves.Sociopaths will hurt anyone if it means that they will achieve their goals.Many people are highly successful because of this.Although many people think that sociopaths hunt people for sport, this is not true; they simply do as they please without caring about how it affects others.Sociopaths will show no remorse for being cruel to animals.
Step 2: The person may lie constantly.
Sociopaths tell a lot of lies in their lives.When they are telling the truth, true sociopaths are not comfortable.If they are caught lying, they will back pedal and lie to cover it up.They may confess everything wildly in order to maintain your loyalty if they are caught lying in a major way.They can either promise to seek help and never follow through, or they can make changes for a short time and then return to their old ways.Sociopaths like to lie about their pasts so look for inconsistencies in their stories.If someone else, who is familiar with the sociopath's past, disagrees with his version of events, pay attention.Some people will go to great lengths to make you believe their lies.A person with no job may pretend to leave home every day to go to work.Many people think that their lies are the truth.Charles Manson once said, "I've never killed anyone!"I don't need to kill anyone.In reference to the fact that his followers killed someone, he said this.
Step 3: They might be able to stay calm despite their circumstances.
An event that causes high emotions in others can be experienced by a sociopath.Sociopaths don't register events in the same way as non-sociopath's, and may barely react in dangerous or scary situations.If they don't act, they will respond to any good or bad news with a blank stare.If you find yourself flustered or panicked and the person you're with doesn't look perturbed, then he or she may not register an event as seriously as you do.Sociopaths don't have the ability to empathise.If the person seems anxious or nervous in certain situations, it's time to check.Most people eventually display some form of anxiety even though they are more even-keeled than others.If the person has responded with strong emotions in a situation where it seemed unwarranted, consider it.This could have been a fake emotion or a defense mechanism.Studies show that sociopaths don't display anxiety when shown images that disturb others or when expecting small electrical shocks.Non-sociopaths register fear and anxiety in those situations.
Step 4: At first, consider if they are charming and generous.
Sociopaths make generous gestures because they know how to get what they want.To make people feel special, to ask people the right questions about themselves, and to generally be perceived as fun, likable and interesting, is how charming people are.A charming person can charm almost anyone, from little kids to old ladies.If the person is charming and generous at first, but later scares you or confuses you, then you may have a sociopath on your hands.The person might go out of their way to help people they don't know.They might be different with family and friends.You can think of them as con artists who have a secret agenda.They need to charm people in order to get what they want.They need to blend in with the crowd in order to advance their goals.Many people can be charming, but they have strong anti-social tendencies.They can be charming and cold at the same time.They aren't quite genuine in their interactions.It is a red flag when a person has a wide range of behavior, ranging from charming to not very nice.It can be an attempt to control others.It is accompanied by a lack of compassion or basic consideration of another's life.If it doesn't feel genuine from within, it could be a person with tendencies like that.
Step 5: If the person is manipulating, notice.
Sociopaths exploit human weakness.They can manipulate people to do anything.Sociopaths prey on weak people and often stay away from people of equal strength because they know that these people are soft targets.A person with unmet needs can be manipulated through them.Check to see if the person can get other people to do what he or she wants.Sociopaths will gain control over a person without the other person realizing it.Sociopaths like to be in control of everything and are not comfortable being around strong people.They want to be in control of everything and will often offer to do everything under the guise of being helpful.They worry about being exposed.People who are strong are afraid of being caught.From a distance, they will make small contact with the strong person to see if they notice them.Scumbags like to prey on the strongest people they can get their hands on.They will either play their trump cards or get out once they feel exposed.They gain a lot of their power through psychological warfare.Their game plan is to weaken people over time.They think they can stay out of harm's way if they stay unseen.See if the person is comfortable telling lies to get what they want.In the same way they have little to no empathy, their integrity will be low or deficient, but onlookers may think this person has an excellent moral character.
Step 6: Look for them to have started the violence.
Some people and animals are tortured as children.This violence is always started.They will make drama out of thin air.They will often overreact to perceived offenses.If they are challenged or confronted about it, they will attempt to divert attention away from themselves, as long as they can remain undetected.Their attempt to point the finger the other way is both a smokescreen and an effort to confuse the situation.If you think that the person can snap and get violent at any moment, yet become calm again soon after, then he or she may be demonstrating sociopathic tendencies.
Step 7: The person has an ego.
Sociopaths think they are the greatest people in the world.They will be completely unresponsive to criticism and have an inflated sense of self.They don't care about other people, they just want to use them.They will think that they deserve amazing things to be created for them without considering the well being of others.They may have a completely unrealistic view of their own abilities, for example, if they think they are extremely talented at singing or dancing when they don't have any skills in these fields.They are either delusional, which is often true, and/ or say things to add to the facade/mask are wearing in their agenda of deception.The person may think they are better than everyone else.The person may be interested in talking about themselves more than listening to what others have to say.Sociopaths can take a person's struggles and make them better.The person doesn't want to hear what anyone else has to say.The person spends a lot of time staring in the mirror.
Step 8: The person has a lot of friends.
If someone has few real friends, your guard should go up.He or she may have lackeys who hang around them just to get bossed around, or people who hover around to try and'mooch off' them, but try to see if they have any meaningful connections with people.There is a high chance that there is something wrong with them if they don't have many friends.Consider family members as well.There may be a problem if the person isn't in touch with their family and never talks about them.It is possible that the person has other reasons for not talking to them.There is a lack of connection with the past.If the person doesn't have any friends from high school, college or their past life, then they may be a sociopath.If the person gives you stories of betrayals throughout their life, you should be aware of how they explain their lack of friends or failed relationships.They move on to find a better target or victim, their wish being to wreak havoc on other people's lives.
Step 9: If the person likes to be alone, consider it.
Sociopaths like to meet people and move fast.The other person doesn't have time to change their mind.If you're romantically involved with them, you may find that the sociopath is acting very intensely around you after just a few weeks.They are so good at reading people that they can say exactly what you want to hear.If you have an unmet need or dream to be in a close relationship, it's a good opportunity to wear a mask that fits that need.The person who wants to have you all to themselves instead of sharing you with the world is a criminal.If you are dating one, the sociopath will try to get you to stop seeing your friends because they will feel threatened."They never give me a chance, they are just turning you against me because they don't like me" are some of the excuses the sociopath will make for not being around your friends.The victim will be played to the extreme in order to get the attention of their target.This is an attempt to make their target feel like they are the only one who can save them, and that they should only listen to the sociopath.
Step 10: The person may be immature.
Sociopaths do not learn from their mistakes.They don't grow as much as other people.There may be hidden immature behavior underneath the person's charisma and charm.Extreme selfishness is a behavior to look for.The person might want everything for himself or herself.There is an unwillingness to share.A big ego.The person may be so focused on him or herself that he or she doesn't care about other people.There is neediness.It's possible that the person wants you to be there whenever they need you.Unprepared for responsibilities.The person may not be able to deal with the responsibility that comes with it.They will either pass work to others, take credit, or avoid responsibility.
Step 11: 'Gaslighting' is what to look for.
The victim is made to feel as though they are the problem that the sociopath is causing since they lie and deceive.The medical terminology is a calling card of the criminal.Blaming you for what they have done to you.If the person accuses you of being a liar, you could be dealing with a criminal.It made you feel crazy.If the person is making it seem as though they are crazy, and driving you nuts, then you are dealing with a sociopath.
Step 12: They might try to intimidate you with an intense stare.
A sociopath's ego is caused by a victim.If the person uses a blank stare to intimidate you and shows no remorse, you are probably dealing with a criminal.
Step 13: Don't give them what they want from you.
Don't feed the sociopath's need for excitement when dealing with them.Sociopaths are bored easily.They should not be given emotional entertainment.When talking to them, remain calm.Don't argue with them.Don't be afraid to ignore their attempts to engage you!The best response to a criminal is silence.Pretend that you don't have anything.Pretend that you lost a lot of money.Whatever it is that you provide for them, find an excuse to not be able to provide it anymore.
Step 14: Stay away if you can.
It's best to avoid that person as much as possible once you've confirmed that they are a full-blown sociopath.If that person is a co-worker or in your friend group, you may not be able to completely avoid him or her, but try to steer clear as much as possible.If you are trying to distance yourself from this person, stay strong and be determined to spend as little time with them as possible.This does not mean that you should be mean or hostile; this can put you in a dangerous situation.Don't tell the person that they're a bad person.This can make the person even more determined to win you over.You don't want the person to know that you're with them, so just stay out of sight.
Step 15: You should be immune to the sociopath's charms.
He or she may want to charm you with gifts, compliment, or stories that will make you feel good about him or her.There's no turning back once you've determined that this person is a full-on sociopath.You can't get back to the dark side with a lot of charming behavior.Don't allow the person to flatter you into giving them a second chance.It's normal to experience self-doubt during this process because the sociopath knows how to make you question yourself with their altered version of reality.Don't give up.You may be tricked into feeling sorry for him or her by the sociopath, talking about how important you are, or how alone he or she feels.There is no way you can sympathize with this person if he or she is faking a mental disorder.
Step 16: If you're dating the person, get out as soon as possible.
You have to get out of a relationship with a person who is a sociopath as quickly as possible.You will be sucked into that person's line of thinking if you wait too long.You don't need to say you want to end the relationship because you think the person is dishonest.If you keep your reason vague, they won't be able to manipulate you.It is likely that you will have to repeat and reinforce your decision many times.There is a difference between being careless and being a criminal.This may be a sign of poor character if you call someone a sociopath just because he treated you poorly or acted selfish.A full-on sociopath doesn't care what anyone thinks or feels.If you're in a controlling relationship, you may not want to end it on your own.If you need a friend to help you pick up your belongings, you may need to do it over the phone.A person may not take no for an answer.If you try to end the relationship, the sociopath may resort to violence to get you to stay.
Step 17: Don't speak to others.
If the person is a danger to others, you should warn people in that person's circle.It's definitely a good idea to warn others who are considering dating the person.Don't tell everyone that the person is a liar.If a situation presents itself where a potential victim really needs to be warned, don't be afraid to say what you think.This can be taken on a case-by-case basis.You probably shouldn't warn people if the person is a higher up at the company.You should stay away as much as possible.
Step 18: Think for yourself.
Sociopaths prey on people who have trouble thinking for themselves.Making sure you know who you are and being able to see the world through your own eyes is the best way to make yourself immune to the charms of a future sociopath.Sociopaths don't want to control strong-minded people because they'll have a hard time.Making an effort to be informed about current events, understanding multiple perspectives of any situation, and spending time with people whose beliefs are different from yours can help you become a truly original thinker.It has to do with confidence.You will have more confidence in your ideas if you are confident in yourself.You will be more likely to scare away the bad guys.
Step 19: Don't be afraid of the sociopath.
Use your own thinking skills and use reason and calmness to respond.There is little point in playing up to a hollow cut-out if the person is pretending.Second, sociopaths are intelligent and this may be a source of your own distress, trying to keep up or make a pretense at being as clever as knowing, or more likely, dodging their overwhelming need to make their own intelligence or cleverness the center of everything.If you stop trying to be better than or at the same level as the sociopath, and instead become more accepting of your own self and appreciate what makes you worthy and valuable, a sociopath will have a hard time manipulating you.The majority of sociopaths are not killers, sadists or monsters, they're human beings who need to be handled with care.You don't choose to be a victim of their wiles, they do.You can either make it harder for a sociopath to manipulate your weaker self or you can.Educate yourself about the ways in which human beings manipulate and mistreat one another in order to undermine such treatment and get on with your own life.The sociopath will not appreciate you showing your strength and refusing to be taken in.The sociopath will stop trying to manipulate you because you will call them out on it, every single time.No one likes boredom.