It's normal to look at people when they walk by.It can be hard to break the habit of checking out people you pass.Asking a friend to help hold you accountable and thinking about how your ogling affects others can help you stop if you notice yourself.It is possible to get to the root of the issue and make it easier to quit if you know what leads to it.
Step 1: The three-second rule states to follow it.
It is normal to look at people as they walk by you.You are interested if you find yourself looking for more than 3 seconds.Time yourself in your head if you have to.You have looked too long if you get to three.
Step 2: Stay focused on something else.
Not everyone stares long.The three-second rule won't work for you if you know you can check people out just with a quick flick of your eyes.Try not to focus on something when you are out.It could be the face of the person you are with, your shoes, or something that you wear on your wrist just so you can stare at it.
Step 3: Make eye contact
If you notice that your eyes are starting to wander, make eye contact with the person.This is a more common occurrence.Give them a small smile if they look back.It will make you seem friendly.
Step 4: You shouldn't hurt the feelings of people you love.
A romantic partner can be hurt by gling other people.It can make them feel bad about your relationship.It makes them feel like you don't love them.Consider how your partner will feel if you start to like someone.
Step 5: You should be more respectful of those around you.
Ogling can be embarrassing to your romantic partner and to other people around you.If you find it hard to stop looking for other people, try doing it for the people around you.
Step 6: Take the feelings of the person you're interested in into account.
To you, the people you like are actually people with feelings.Being watched can make them feel objectified and unsafe.If you start to like someone, think about how it makes them feel.
Step 7: If-then plan.
An "if-then" plan is a way to break a bad habit.Someone who drinks too much when out with friends might say "If my friends ask me if I want a drink, then I'm only drinking water."If you realize you're looking at people while they walk by, make a plan for what to do.If you start to like someone, then you'll get out your phone.You'll have a conversation with the person with you if you start to like each other.
Step 8: Asking someone to hold you accountable is a good idea.
gling is easy to do without anyone noticing.Ask someone you spend a lot of time with to hold you accountable.They can watch you to see if you're flirting.It is possible to break a habit by having someone else hold you accountable.You might want to come up with a code word for when your friend needs to point out something."Stop looking at that person!"It can be embarrassing in public."There's going to be rain later" is a code for "Stop ogling."
Step 9: Consider seeing a professional.
If you can't stop looking at other people no matter how hard you try, this can be helpful.There are underlying issues that can be helped by a counselor.You should be able to find doctors listed on your insurance company's website if you check their website.There are free clinics in your city or county if you don't have insurance.The use of their counseling services is usually included in the tuition and fees of a university student.
Step 10: Know that it is a habit.
It is not a force of nature that you can't fight.The invitation to look at other people is ingrained in the movies, tv shows, and magazines that are available.If you acknowledge that you can stop doing it, you will be able to not do it.
Step 11: Do not feed habits that feed into one another.
This includes looking at magazines, watching movies and TV shows in order to get to know the people you see there.You are more likely to do it in person if you are doing it at home.
Step 12: Don't be aggressive.
It can take up to 28 days to break bad habits.Don't get too down on yourself if you fail to break the habit.You might be able to break the habit if you keep trying.