Talking to a crush is nerve-racking and can lead to rejection.Don't allow this fear to consume you, set aside your doubts and insecurities.To engage your crush in conversation, take a risk and muster up self-confidence.
Step 1: A simple greeting is enough to start.
Say hello when you see your crush.Make eye contact with your crush.Exchange "Hellos" with your crush once you've locked eyes.Don't try to force the conversation.Don't chase after your crush if they say hello.Your crush may not be interested in talking to you, or they may be heading somewhere in a hurry.
Step 2: You can ask your crush a question.
After saying hello, ask your crush a question.You can pose a generic stock question, ask them a school related question or tailor the question to your crush's interests and activities.Stock questions include: "How are you doing?" and "Do you work at _____?"
Step 3: Listen to what they have to say.
Stay focused on your crush after asking the question.You can extend the conversation with another question or personal story if youActively listen to their reply.When you remain engaged in a conversation, people are more willing to keep talking.Don't allow your phone and computer to distract you.Mental notes of potential follow-up questions can be made.
Step 4: Ask a follow-up question if you have an anecdote to share.
Both you and your crush have the ability to continue the conversation after your initial question has been answered.If your crush asks you a question, reply and then pose another question of your own.You have three options if your crush doesn't ask you a question: ask a follow-up question, share a relevant personal story or end the conversation.Continue asking each other questions, telling jokes, and exchanging stories until one or both of you decide to end the conversation.
Step 5: Show the best version of yourself.
The information you share about yourself is just as revealing as the questions you ask others.Negative comments and brags are unflattering qualities when talking about yourself.Give your crush a chance to talk to keep the conversation balanced.Don't brag about your accomplishments or discuss your failures in the entire conversation.Discuss your interests and dreams for the future.Your crush will see how great you are.Asking thoughtful questions shows you are interested in your crush.
Step 6: Body language can be used to communicate with your crush.
Body language is a powerful form of communication.These gestures can be used to flirt with your crush.Keep eye contact with your crush.Love and lust can be seen in your eyes, as can interest and attraction.Look at their body language and facial expressions.Occasionally, you should let your crush know that you are listening.Touch your crush on the arm or shoulder occasionally.Be aware of your facial expressions.You run the risk of sending mixed messages to your crush if your facial expression and gestures don't match the sentiment of your words.
Step 7: You can text your crush.
If you are shy, you may be more comfortable texting your crush instead of talking to them.This form of communication is accompanied by its own set of rules and social nuisances.Get their number from a mutual acquaintance or swap numbers with your crush.You will get your crush's number the same day or night you text.Don't text your crush at odd hours, like early in the morning or late at night.Instead of texting, begin the conversation by asking your crush a question, telling them it was nice to see them, or asking them to make plans.Don't worry about your crush's response time.Do not try again if your crush doesn't respond after the first or second text.Privileged information is your crush's phone number.Don't take advantage of the privilege.You can use traditional spelling and grammar in your text messages.
Step 8: You can flirt with your crush on the photo sharing site.
You can flirt with your crush on every social media platform.This form of flirting requires next to no traditional forms of communication.Double click on one of their pictures to like it.After a few weeks, your crush will notice that you're likely their images and hopefully take the hint.Don't like every post.Comment on their picture if you are feeling bold.
Step 9: You can flirt with your crush on the social media site.
You can use this social media platform to flirt with your crush, and there are several ways to do that.If you liked their clever comment, your crush will be flattered and remind you that you exist.Follow them on social media.Your crush won't be any different when a new person follows you on social media.Send a direct message to your crush.You can use Direct Messages to flirt with your crush.Don't reply to every one of your crush's Tweets.Each week you can choose one or two to respond to.
Step 10: To love yourself you have to learn.
Confidence is the key to flirting.Your crush can't see how great you are unless he believes in you.If you want to be the best version of yourself, you don't need to strive for being the most beautiful, the smartest, or the funniest person in the room.Don't criticize your appearance, identify your best attributes.Write them down and repeat them to yourself.You will start to notice your favorite features when you look in the mirror.You should make a second list of your best characteristics.Are you a good friend, a hard worker, an awesome teacher, or a talented musician?Are you willing to give others second chances, or do you have the ability to make impartial decisions?Some of your most attractive qualities are your best characteristics.
Step 11: Accepting praise should begin.
It's hard to accept praise when you don't have confidence.It can be difficult to accept that someone thinks you are attractive.Accepting positive comments will give you a boost of self-confidence.You will begin to believe that their comments are true when they compliment you.Simply say "Thanks" and smile.You can expand your reply as you grow more comfortable.
Step 12: A list of conversation starters can be developed.
It's easy to make the excuse, "I have nothing to say," than it is to actually talk to a crush.This excuse is not valid.You don't need to have a lot of weird facts, funny anecdotes, insightful comments, and probing questions to talk to someone.You just need to be interested in what your crush has to say and ask a few questions to get the conversation going.Do you know when the English assignment is due, or have you seen the latest episode of the show?
Step 13: Don't wait until your crush makes the first move.
Our fear of rejection can be very paralyzing.We can't take risks like talking to our crush because of this fear.You can talk to your crush if you step out of your comfort zone.If your crush really wanted to talk to you, they would start a conversation with you.It's possible that your crush is feeling shy and unsure as you are.Take charge and talk to your crush with confidence instead of waiting for them to make the first move.If your crush isn't interested in you, you'll never wonder what could have been.
Step 14: Stay calm and collected during the conversation.
You want to present the best version of yourself when you talk to your crush.Speak confidently, keep your emotions in check, and act appropriately.If your crush isn't interested in you, move on and try to control your nervous ticks, like biting your nails or twirling your hair.