If you are too shy or nervous to approach someone in person, texting is a great way to communicate.It allows you to control exactly what you say and could help you be a little more forward than you would otherwise be.If you want to get to know your crush better, start by asking questions.Don't be afraid to tease your crush.Text them something short and sweet to confess your feelings, it can be nerve-racking, but you will also feel proud for putting yourself out there!
Step 1: Say hi and ask a question.
Don't just say "Hey" or "What's up" come to the conversation with a plan.You could ask Brian if he got the homework assignment for English class.I forgot to write it down.You were in the school play.You could say, "Do you know if they're looking for help backstage?"You could say something like, "I thought I was going to die of boredom during class today."The Civil War is not interesting because Mr. Rogers doesn't make it.
Step 2: Get them to open up with questions.
An open-ended question is one that requires more than a "yes" or "no" answer, and it is a great way to get to know your crush better.Ask about their favorite movies, books, games, TV shows, places to visit, or anything else you can think of.Instead of asking, do you like movies, ask, "What are your top 3 favorite movies?"
Step 3: If you want to give detailed responses to texts, give them one word answers.
Don't be afraid to speak your mind!Sending a "k" or "yes" response to a text is the fastest way to kill a conversation.If you have something in common with your crush, talk about it.Sometimes differing opinions can help keep the conversation going.Tell your crush why you don't like a particular movie if they think it's the best.You could discuss the different characters and storylines.Ask them if you don't know what your crush is talking about.If their favorite bands are ones you have never heard of, say something like, "I've never listened to them before."Which album is your favorite?I will give it a listen.
Step 4: It's a good idea to flatter them with a compliment.
To give a good compliment, you need to be sincere and keep it short.Text "You did a great job in the game last Friday!" or "I was impressed by how well you did on your project in class."If you aren't talking about anything else, you can send a compliment on its own.Wait for your crush to reply before sending another one.Don't say anything about your feelings when you send these texts.It makes it weird when you say, "I don't know if I should say this because it feels kind of weird, but I think you're a great baseball player."Say, "You're a great baseball player!"
Step 5: You can show off your sense of humor with the use of emojis and GIFs.
Try to find things that are related to what you are talking about.Send a Gif of someone falling asleep at their desk if you are texting about being bored over the weekend.Your crush will have to decipher what you are saying if you include a message typed entirely in emojis.Have fun with your texting.It will make you feel more comfortable with your crush so that you can eventually tell them you like them.
Step 6: Send the funny videos and meme to remind you of your crush.
If you find a meme or video that makes you laugh, send it to your crush with a message that says something like, "This made me think of you!"You could say something like, I was thinking of you.Hope you enjoy this!Send a funny cat video to your crush with a message that says, "For you, cat lover," with the cat symbol.It is a good idea to tell your crush that you are thinking of them.
Step 7: Talk about their quirks or things you don't agree with.
Don't tease them about something that could hurt their feelings, and be kind and playful.It is not a good idea to tease your crush about a stutter.You could tease them about that if they told you that they still like to watch movies when they are young.If you want to say something like, "I know what your Friday night plans are!" you can use the tongue-sticking-out emoji.If you think Ron Weasley is the best character in the Harry Potter series, say something like, "Well I can't trust your opinion, HERMIONE LOVER!" with a laugh.
Step 8: Ask for their opinion about something.
This could allow you to ask your crush to hang out.Say something like, "My friends and I are looking for a good coffee shop to study at."Where do you like to go?I need a new show to watch.A great way to follow up on this is to actually go to the place and do the thing they recommended.You could say, "I started watching Riverdale and I love it."Can't wait to see what happens next.If they said you should check out a new coffee shop in town, take a trip with some friends and then send him a message saying you loved it.It was great.If you want to ask them to hang out, send a text that says, "Hey, I'm going to that coffee shop you recommended today."Would you like to meet up and study?
Step 9: To start a conversation, text your crush.
It could make you go crazy waiting for a response if you just send a single text.If you text your crush something general first and get a response, you will at least know that they are near their phone.Try to ask a question or make a statement.You could say, "I need to study for exams next week, but I just can't focus!"All I want to do is sleep.
Step 10: Text back and forth to find out if they are happy or sad.
It is not the best time to confess your feelings for your crush if they are out with their friends.If you want to know if they have plans or how they are doing, try asking.They should tell you how they are feeling.You may want to put off the conversation for another day if their response is short or long.
Step 11: You can tell your crush that you like them by writing a short message.
Don't go into a lot of detail.Short and simple is the best way to say something.Try something like that.I want to tell you that I have a crush on you.No pressure or anything.If you have been texting with your crush for a few weeks and sending flirtatious messages back and forth, it probably won't be a big surprise to them that you like them.A long, drawn-out message about your feelings could be overwhelming.You want to give your crush space to respond, but also communicate that you respect their feelings, no matter what.
Step 12: Do not send followup texts until you get a response.
Sending multiple messages in a row will make you look clingy and desperate, and it could make the situation worse.Take a walk, go to a movie, or reorganize your closet if you want to put your phone away.That may be your answer if they don't respond at all.They will respond even if they don't have the same feelings.
Step 13: When reading your crush's response, think about texting.
Does it take a few minutes, hours, or days to respond to a text?Do they usually use full sentences or do they respond with short sentences?Picking up on differences between how they normally respond could give you a clue as to what they are thinking.If you tell them you like them but don't hear back for several hours, that could mean they are taking their time and thinking about how to respond.If they respond to your text with a single word or short reply, it could mean that they are not comfortable and don't feel the same way.Each person will respond differently to being told someone likes them.If they haven't thought about it yet, some people will need time to figure it out.
Step 14: If you get a positive response, ask your crush to hang out with you.
That is awesome if you find out that your crush likes you back.Send a follow-up text that says, "That was a stressed out moment!"You feel the same way!We are going to see that new movie on Friday.If you aren't allowed to hang out romantically with people one-on-one yet, try getting a group together to go to the movies, bowling, or a school event.
Step 15: Give your crush some space after a negative response.
It is okay to be upset if they do not respond in the way you had hoped.You should not send followup texts asking why they don't like you.Say something simple and I will get it.I hope we can still be friends, but remember that there is nothing wrong with putting yourself out there, even if they don't like you.
Step 16: No matter the outcome, be proud of yourself for doing something.
Whether your crush likes you back or not, you did something that people all over the world find intimidating.You should take a moment to appreciate how much you have grown as a person and as an individual.It is possible to reflect on what you would like to do differently in the future.Take each opportunity as a learning experience.