It's hard to approach a girl in public.There is no reason for you to come across as weird if you pay attention to her body language and respect her boundaries.It is possible to learn how to approach a girl and start a conversation with some practice.
Step 1: Make contact with your eyes.
If you want to talk to a girl, try to make eye contact.Try to look at her again after a few minutes.It will show her that you are interested in her if she catches you stealing glances at her.It could be a sign that she wants you to approach her.Three glances from a girl could mean she's interested.Eye contact is a powerful tool for attracting someone.
Step 2: Affirmative!
A friendly smile shows someone that you're interested in them.She might be interested in you if she returns the smile.Once you've exchanged a few glances and a smile, try approaching her to say hi and ask her about what she's doing: "Hello, I couldn't help but notice you over here."What are you studying?
Step 3: Positive body language can be assessed.
While reading another person's body language is not an exact science, there are definitely a few behaviors to look for that will signal that the person is interested in engaging in conversation.She would feel comfortable with you approaching her if she is facing you or leaning toward you.She could be interested in you approaching her, if she makes eye contact or smiles at you.
Step 4: Negative body language is something to check for.
If a girl doesn't want to be approached, she will usually use closed-off signals.A few indicators include looking away from you, crossed arms, listening to music, and reading a book.While not perfect indicators, expressions and body language like this most likely means that you should leave her alone.If she isn't responding to you with positive body language, be respectful and let it go.
Step 5: Contribute to a conversation.
It is possible to flirt on its own if you strike up a friendly conversation.There are many ways to start a conversation.She could be asked if she made her earrings."I couldn't help but notice how your dress matches your eyes," you could say.It's a great color.Don't be shy about commenting on something that is eye-catching but avoid teasing or poking fun at her the first time you speak to her.Ask her what her favorite book is and what book she's currently reading.You can say things like, "It's pretty cool in here, isn't it?" or "I cannot believe they painted the walls orange to break the ice."You can compliment her on her hair or outfit.Leave her alone if she isn't interested in talking.Not making eye contact, monosyllabic answers, looking around for a way out of the conversation are a few ways to tell.Through eye contact, smiling, and sometimes leaning closer to you, she will tell you if she is interested.
Step 6: Listen when she talks.
Give her your full attention and listen to what she has to say.Don't use your phone or be distracted by other things.She will know that you are interested in what she has to say, she will find out more about her, and you will be able to further the conversation.You can show that you are listening by maintaining eye contact, nodding, smiling, and agreeing with verbal signals.
Step 7: Don't think it's crazy.
You don't want to come off as if you're trying too hard when approaching a girl.Act casual but friendly.Light banter can break the ice.You want to present yourself as if you are talking to someone.Remember to fake it until you make it, and pretend that you're not nervous at all.
Step 8: Try to say what you want to.
If you don't think of something to say before you approach her, you will be too nervous to speak to her.Before speaking to her, practice what you say a few times in your head or out loud.It's possible to practice what you say in your head.If you are alone or somewhere where you feel comfortable, you can say it out loud in your normal speaking voice to get used to it.Go over it in your head or write it down as many times as you can until you feel comfortable with it.
Step 9: If she is with a group of friends, approach her.
Try talking to the group instead of just one girl.You can say something like, "I couldn't help but notice that it looks like you are discussing something very funny; it must be the orange guy over there..." or something silly and/or sarcastic along those lines.Don't be afraid to approach a group of girls.You will be admired for your courage if you are confident.
Step 10: Contact information can be exchanged.
Make plans for a future meet-up if she seems interested in you.Give her a phone number or email.She feels in control of the situation.If she follows up, you'll know that she's interested.Leave it if she says no.Even if she enjoyed your company, she doesn't owe you anything.You can ask for her number or give it to her.If she offers it, you could say something like, "Hey, can I give you my number real quick before we go?" and then write it down or enter it into her phone.If you have a business card, you can give it to her instead of writing out your contact information, which is a more formal approach.
Step 11: Ask her on a date.
If it is during the day, before 5:00 p.m., suggest that the two of you grab coffee somewhere by saying, "do you want to grab a coffee?"If she isn't available, ask her if she has plans on the weekend: "Do you have plans this weekend?"You want her to feel comfortable, so choose a public place for a date.If you ask if she knows of a good place, have a place in mind.If you discover through talking to her that you share an interest or hobby, you can suggest that she and you work on it in a casual way.Inviting her to an event or activity that is public and involves others will make her.
Step 12: Don't be rude.
This is the most important part of approaching a girl.Talk to her in a courteous way.Don't curse, make fun of her, and tell dirty jokes.Being respectful indicates that you can be trusted.It is possible to prove that you are trustworthy by being respectful to her friends and family.Accept it and let it be if she isn't interested.