If you became pregnant after a one-night stand, you may be feeling a range of emotions.It can be handled with grace, even though informing the person you slept with might be a little scary.You can navigate this conversation by working out your own feelings, communicating effectively, and deciding what to do.You may have some important decisions to make, but you have options.
Step 1: You should confirm that you are pregnant.
You should confirm that you are pregnant before you discuss it with anyone.You don't need to have this conversation until you know for sure.If you have missed a period or are experiencing other symptoms, you should take a pregnancy test.Some tests can be taken up to five days before your period, but they are not as accurate.Wait until you have missed your period, then take an over-the-counter test.A urine or blood test can be taken by your doctor.
Step 2: Think about how you feel.
It might be a shock to become pregnant after a one night stand.As this news starts to sink in, it's a good idea to spend a little time processing it and seeing how you feel.As you consider how to proceed, you may experience a range of emotions.In order to sort out what you are feeling, you should take some time to journal and talk to a friend.It is not necessary to tell the person who slept with you.
Step 3: Consider your options.
There is at least one decision you have to make.You need to make a decision on whether or not to have a baby.You have to decide how involved you want the other parent to be.This is your decision.You can either want their feedback or not.Before speaking to him, you should decide how you feel.Having an abortion is one of your options.Seeking a family.The father is with the baby.You can keep the baby on your own.
Step 4: Decide what you want to say.
It is helpful to plan and practice what you will say when faced with an important conversation.Take a piece of paper and a pen and write something down.Don't forget to include all relevant info in your communication.Speak these words out loud.You can say things like, "I missed my period and I am pregnant." or " I already know what I want to do."
Step 5: Establish a time to meet.
If you need to talk to him, tell him that you want to do it in person.You could suggest going for a walk or coffee in a quiet place.Tell him that you can't talk at the moment because you are in company.A suitable venue and time will be arranged if he agrees.He might think you're calling him to follow up on the night you spent together.If that's not what he wants, the reception may be cold.He might need to be told over the phone if he doesn't meet up in person.
Step 6: Speak with authority.
Speak loudly and clearly when you meet with him, so that you don't have to repeat yourself.Go ahead and chase after a small talk.It's a good idea to bring a note card with what you're going to say.You don't want to get nervous and forget what you have planned.You can come out and say that you should know that I am pregnant.
Step 7: Be prepared for a lot of reactions.
This will catch him off-guard because you have had a little bit of time to process this information.He could be confused, angry, or in denial.He could offer his support right away.He may show many reactions at the same time.Give him time to process the information.His first reaction might not be indicative of how he feels.Explain that you can talk at a later date if he is angry.After he has calmed down, he might contact you.You can discuss your options and feelings with him if he is kind and understanding.You might suggest a follow-up meeting a week or so in the future, acknowledging that you've had more time to think things over than him.What you do is up to you.
Step 8: Take care of your stress.
This might be a difficult process.Your health is in a sensitive state regardless of whether or not you plan to have a baby.You need to take care of yourself.Take some time to process your thoughts and manage your stress after you speak with him.Get a massage, take a bath, or treat yourself to a snack.A trusted family member, a therapist, or a friend would be a good person to talk to.Get lots of rest.
Step 9: Make a decision.
You might be ready to make a decision after you have spoken to him.Maybe you know what you want to do, or maybe you don't.Is it possible that you don't have the desire or means to have a child?Take your personal beliefs and emotions into account.There are four options to choose from.You can choose to end the pregnancy.Put the child up for adoption.Continue the pregnancy and co-parent with the father.You can either continue with the pregnancy or raise the child on your own.
Step 10: It's a good idea to consult a doctor.
You should consult with a doctor if you don't know how you're going to proceed.A doctor can give you valuable advice and resources if you continue with the pregnancy.You should make an appointment with an OBGYN for a consultation.