The people pleaser personality type is desperate to feel important and needed. Their lack of self worth, confidence and self-belief, makes it almost impossible for them to set and maintain healthy boundaries with others.
Is it bad to be a people pleaser?
People Pleasers spend so much time and effort in taking care of others. Unfortunately, they often do not establish good social support for themselves. They also find it hard to give up control and let other people take care of them. While taking care of others in noble and rewarding, it can also be toxic and unhealthy.
How do I stop being a people pleaser without feeling guilty?
- People pleasers rely on the approval of others to feel good about themselves.
- Steps to stop people pleasing include letting values drive decision making, practicing saying no, and not over-apologizing.
- People pleasing behavior can be changed while maintaining respect for oneself and others.