It's natural to wonder why a guy who used to be very attentive and affectionate suddenly backs off.There are many theories on how to tell if a guy is no longer interested in you.Look for major shifts in communication between you.When you have identified some communication changes, assess his actions, and then start addressing the issue by talking to him, seeking advice from others and focusing on yourself.
Step 1: Look for less communication.
This can be a sign that a guy is losing interest.If a guy wants to talk to you, you can assume that he will contact you.You should be aware of when a guy stops calling and texting.A sign of declining interest is more isolation and less verbal contact.It could be that he has issues to deal with at home or he is very busy.It is best to reach out and ask directly, rather than assuming he is lost interest.
Step 2: You should watch out for shorter conversations.
Reduced communication goes hand in hand with this.It is only for very short periods of time that you should notice that.If you only speak for ten minutes at a time, this can be a sign that he is losing interest in you.He may try to shorten your conversations by ignoring your texts or calls for long periods of time before returning them, or he may say that he has to stop talking but doesn't offer a clear reason why.
Step 3: When his voice changes, notice.
He's not interested anymore.Many men will speak to people that they are interested in with a softer and more flirtatious tone than they would use with others.His voice starts to sound like his normal one when his feelings change.He may say things that are unfriendly to you.He is not interested in you.You don't deserve to be around people who treat you poorly or unkindly.If he starts to say bad things about you, you should stop the conversation.
Step 4: Listen to what he says.
Does he focus on himself or does he ask about meaningful things in your life?A guy that is interested in you will try to get to know you better.He tries to keep the conversation superficial or cut it short when he speaks.He may be trying to tell you if he is interested or not.You should pay attention to the way he is saying things to you, as well as the things he says.Is he funnier with you?A lack of humor might mean he is depressed or just lost interest in things.He may talk about trivial things or deeper subjects.It is possible that he is not interested in avoiding topics of substance or talking about his feelings.He is letting you know that he sees you only as a friend if he starts talking about his relationships with other people.
Step 5: He breaks plans.
You should take this as a sign that he doesn't want to hang out when he breaks plans that you made without rescheduling.He may stop asking you to hang out, which is a red flag.If you notice that you are the only one suggesting things to do and making plans, you should hold back and see if he tries to make plans.If he is still interested, he will try to hang out with you.He may offer generic excuses, like that he has other things to do, to break plans.If he never gives you a clear answer about why he can't hang out, you should be aware.He might try to be evasive.He could say, "I have plans with someone else, but I can't make it tonight" without giving a reason.
Step 6: Look at his behavior with others.
You may not be able to tell if he is treating you differently or the same as his friends.If you want to know if he treats you the same as his platonic friends, watch how he interacts with them.He is probably just being friendly to you and not interested in having a relationship with you.He will treat you differently if he is interested in you.Some men have more flirtatious tendencies, while others reserve their flirting for people that they do care about, so try to differentiate whether he is the latter or the former.
Step 7: Look at his body language.
Body language can show how someone is feeling.When someone is disinterested in a situation, they will try to avoid physical contact with you.He may be uncomfortable or disinterested in your interactions.He can try to move away from you, cross his arms in front of him, or turn away while you are talking.He may try to avoid physical contact, like a hug or touching his arm, because he is not interested.He may not be interested in what you are saying if his eye contact is short and he breaks it frequently.Some men are shy and this could be a sign of shyness or a lack of interest.He is disinterested in pointing his feet and body away from you, rubbing his neck, crossing his arms, or looking at the floor.
Step 8: If he stops physical contact, notice.
Physical proximity is emphasized in any relationship.You should look for any changes in the contact you have with each other.Whenever you see each other, the two of you may hug.He may stop hugging you if he's no longer interested in you.When he loses interest, the type of contact can change.A non-romantic gesture that most men use with friends is to tap you on the arm.
Step 9: See if he pays attention.
When guys are interested in someone, they will try to remember their interests, schedule, and facts about that person.Guys will stop paying attention when they aren't interested anymore.He probably isn't interested anymore if he forgets your birthday even after you've been talking about it for a few weeks.He may no longer be interested in the things that are important in your life if he consistently forgets things you tell him, like that you have an interview coming up or that your family is coming in to town.He might no longer surprise you with flowers or a random gift as he did in the past.
Step 10: He should contact you first.
If he isn't communicating with you as much as he used to, you should stop reaching out to him.He isn't interested in seeing you when you're the only one who texts, calls or tries to make plans.Try this for a week to see if he changes.If he starts conversations with you, don't contact him first.He will either notice that the conversations have stopped or he will not reach out and that will tell you that he is not interested.
Step 11: Ask for help.
mutual friends with the guy you likeIf you can, ask his friends if he is still interested in you and if they know.If he asks for advice about his romantic relationships with other people, notice.He sees you only as a friend, and this is a sign that he is interested in someone else.He might ask, "How can I get this girl to notice me?"What kind of date should I have for her?He doesn't have any interest in you romantically.
Step 12: Ask him something.
This is the best way to find out if he is still interested in you.You never know how he is feeling until you have a conversation with him.This can be frightening.This is a vulnerable position to put yourself in because no one wants to feel rejected.You may be reading his signals wrong or missing signals that he thinks are clear.The subject can be broached directly or indirectly.If you want to get to the heart of the issue, you can ask him, "Are you still interested in hanging out together, or would you rather just be friends?"
Step 13: Take care of yourself.
Losing a guy that you are interested in can be an emotional time.If this guy is no longer interested in you, you need to take care of yourself and be kind to yourself.Do things that make you happy.You can hang out with friends, cook a meal, paint a picture, or watch a movie.
Step 14: Keep your dignity.
Accept that he may not be interested in you anymore.If you can't keep your distance from him, try not to say anything to his friends.It is natural to grieve the loss of this relationship and your idea of what will happen in the future.When you are done grieving, focus on the positive parts of your life.The big picture should be kept in mind.It is hard for you, but there are many wonderful guys out there.