It can be difficult to create romance in a marriage if your husband doesn't want it or cooperates with it.You can't force your husband to be romantic, but it's helpful to encourage different activities in your relationship.
Step 1: Do what you want.
Let your husband know if you want him to treat you differently.He might not be able to meet your wants or needs because he doesn't know them.Don't expect your husband to act like a mind reader.Do him a favor and let him know.Don't be afraid to say what you want.Let him know if you appreciate a gesture or action.
Step 2: Reinforce the things you don't like.
When your husband does something for you, make sure to let him know how much you appreciate it.He can begin to do these things out of love for you if you let him know you appreciate the gesture.Say something like, "I really appreciate when you pull my chair out for me."
Step 3: Take the lead.
You can show your husband what you want and appreciate him by taking the lead.Leave a gift for him in the morning, plan a romantic evening with him, or treat him to a massage.Extending the romance to your husband is a way to show your love.Take the lead and express your desire for your husband to reciprocate.In sex, take the lead in small gestures.Do things that your husband likes.Taking the lead doesn't mean that your gestures will be returned.Your husband may have a different idea of romance than you do.
Step 4: It's good to encourage intimacy.
Being emotionally intimate doesn't just include sex.Share your husband's hopes, dreams, fears, and accomplishments with him.Listen to and support your husband as he feels vulnerable around you.Emotional intimacy can make you feel closer to your husband.You should also be intimate with your husband.You can create a strong sense of connection between the two of you by allowing each other to be intimate.
Step 5: Discuss what you consider romantic.
Your view of romance may be different from your husband's.It is important to understand what your husband thinks is romantic.Discuss the things that make you feel loved, and allow your husband to share the gestures he appreciates, so that you can feel appreciated.If your husband thinks romance is boring, let him know that you enjoy the occasional "cheesy" moment.Even trite moments can be meaningful, and I appreciate them.
Step 6: Improve listening skills.
Both you and your husband can improve their listening skills.By showing care and love for each other, you will be able to give your undivided attention.Put the remote down and look at each other.Giving each other your full attention is what makes what you say important.Ask your husband to listen to you if he is distracted.Tell him how much it means to you.
Step 7: Communication should be build up.
You can learn how to communicate more effectively with your husband.Make time for more romance by relating to one another in a positive way.Speak without blame and express your feelings, instead of saying things like, "You make me feel so angry when you come home from work late" or "I feel disappointed when I make dinner and you're not here to enjoy it with me."Use statements such as, "I feel angry when you don't clean up after yourself" or " I appreciate your generosity and it makes me feel happy if you do small, thoughtful gestures for me" when discussing your feelings.
Step 8: Spend time together.
Plan your activities so that you can enjoy each other's company.If you want to watch tv together, make it special by preparing food or making a theme of the night.You can spend one night a week doing something together.Ask your husband if you can do a cooking class or see a show.A dance class is a great way to start a new activity.
Step 9: Take turns.
Each of you can plan romantic time by taking turns.You should plan a date that your husband will enjoy and keep his wants and likes in mind.Ask him to do the same thing for you.A romantic date can include a fancy evening of dressing up for dinner and a live show, or it can be fun and playful, like playing laser tag together.
Step 10: The expression of love can be expressed in many ways.
The main ways in which people give and receive love are described in five love languages.Words ofAffirmation, acts of service, gifts, quality time, and physical touch are included in these "languages".Discuss the ways in which you love your husband.You can find ways to respond to each other's love languages.If your husband responds to words ofAffirmation, make sure you tell him you love him and are grateful for him.Tell your husband how much a gentle caress or a loving embrace mean to you if you respond to love through physical touch.You and your husband may both enjoy expressing love through acts of service.By knowing how your partner expresses love to you, you can appreciate the gestures.Your partner knows how to give you love in a way that is easy to receive, if he knows your love language.