Nobody likes being bullied.No one enjoys being a bully.You're not stuck in that role if you discover that you are bully others.You can stop bully those around you if you are honest, work and have some time to spare.
Step 1: Say sorry.
Say you are sorry to the person you have been tormenting.One way to let them know that you are sorry is to tell him.Say, "I want to apologize for how bad I have been to you."I am sorry, but I can't take it back.If it is difficult to do in person right now, then send him an email, text, or even write him a note.Your apology may not be accepted immediately.He probably has some negative feelings towards you that may take time to get over, and he may not trust that you are sincere.He will forgive you if you use your behavior to support your apology.
Step 2: Stop and ponder.
Think about why you are doing something before you do it.It is possible to change what you are about to do by taking just a few seconds to think about it.It can be helpful to think about what you are doing before you do it.Think about the short- and long-term effects of being bullied.What will this do to you and the person you are tormenting?Think about how you can interact with that person.Is it possible to be nice or ignore her?Think about who you are trying to be.Is it in line with that?
Step 3: It's a good idea to make a point of being kind.
While you don't have to buy gifts for everyone you know, make an effort to be nicer, more compassionate, and helpful.Do at least one nice thing a day.You could also develop new friends if you change your behavior in a positive way.Asking someone how his day is going is a good way to compliment them.Donate something to a charity or volunteer.Become a mentor for someone.
Step 4: Be willing to accept.
Work on being more accepting if one of the reasons you were bullied was because the person is different in some way or because of your feelings about certain issues or things that person represents.Accepting the differences in others is a big step in not being bullied.Accept that she is different, and even accept that you aren't completely comfortable with that difference.You should learn more about the person.She may have some things that you don't like, but you can find out something about her you actually like.If you can't accept the person, leave her alone.
Step 5: Stress management techniques are used.
When you feel stressed, practice some stress and anxiety reducing techniques.If you do this on a regular basis, you will change your long-term behavior so that you don't get bullied.One way to calm down is to take a few deep breaths.Think of yourself as fun and peaceful.If you like drawing, listening to music, or even exercising, then do something that calms you.
Step 6: You must walk away.
If you feel like you are about to bully someone, walk away.If you have to, spend a few minutes alone so that you don't hurt anyone.It is easy to bully someone if you walk away.If you can, leave the immediate area.If you are in the middle of class, you may not be able to leave the room.Try to go to another part of the room or away from the person.
Step 7: Make new friends.
One way to change your behavior is to associate with people who support it.If you were part of the reason for being bullied in the first place, then you should consider getting rid of your old friends.Meeting new people will allow you to have a fresh start.New friends can help you if you are about to bully someone.
Step 8: Don't think of yourself a bully.
It is not who you are that is bullied.Negative labels can affect your self-esteem and make you more likely to bully others.Even though you said things, you still have a lot of good qualities.Try to say to yourself, "I have bullied in the past, but that's not something I do anymore."These things can be used to identify yourself.Say to yourself, "I am smart and funny."
Step 9: Don't forget the impact on you.
It hurts the people to be bullied, but it also hurts you.It is important to recognize the effect your bully has on your life now as well as the impact it will have on you later in life.If someone decides to retaliate, you can get into trouble.It can make you lose friends and make people dislike you.Your self-esteem can be affected by your bully.Some people who were bullied as children have problems with their adult relationships.
Step 10: Why bully?
Do you mean to hurt people?It's a learned response to stress.Something has taught you that being bullied is a way to deal with fear and anxiety.It's important to identify why you do it in the first place.Take time to think about why you are doing this.Some people bully others because they have been bullied themselves.People that bully have been the victims.You should talk to someone you trust about what happened to you.Some people bully because they want attention or power.Some people bully because of their beliefs.They are often uncomfortable with people they consider different.The other person isn't responsible for your actions.If he did something to you in the past, your actions are under your control.
Step 11: Speak to someone.
Share what you are going through with someone you trust.She can help you sort through any negative feelings you are having, deal with your underlying reasons for being bullied, and introduce you to more constructive ways to express your feelings.
Step 12: New mechanisms to cope.
One of the biggest things you can do to stop bully is to explore different ways to deal with stress.New methods of dealing with your negative feelings replace your bully with appropriate behavior.Explore different deep breathing techniques.Changing your breathing is a simple way to calm down.Look into meditation and other practices.These techniques can help reduce anxiety and stress, which can lead to bully behavior.
Step 13: Have you recalled your experiences?
Think about a time in your life when you were afraid or humiliated.You don't want to relive this memory again.Remembering that time can help you understand how the person you are tormenting feels.What did you think about yourself when this happened?Remember the feelings you had.Did you feel worthless, unlikable, or both?Some of the feelings the person you are taunting may have.What did you think about the person who made you feel this way?Were you upset with him?Were you afraid of him?That's how someone who is being bullied feels about you.
Step 14: Think about how the person will be affected by it.
Imagine that you bully someone.Think about how you feel when you are being bullied.Taking her perspective makes you think about the negative feelings you cause when you bully.When she sees you, think about how she feels.Do you think it's Dread?Resignation?Do you think she has had to change her habits?Do you want to avoid interacting with you?Consider how she feels when you bully her.Think about how the emotions she experiences affect her.How does she feel after interacting with you?Shaken?Are you angry?Hurt?Are you scared?Relieved?How hard is it for her to keep doing what she's doing?
Step 15: Consider the long term impact.
Think about the impact your actions will have on that person in the future, even though you may have thought about how the person feels when you bully him.This will show you how much harm you can do.If you take a long-term perspective on your behavior, you can stop being bullied.1/3 of people are bullied and end up cutting themselves.80% of youth suicides are due to being bullied.Many people who have been bullied have problems with their school and work performance.
Step 16: Consider your reputation.
You know that nobody likes a bully, even if it makes you feel better at the time.Take the perspective of other people who know you.What impact is your behavior having on people?Do people treat you like a bully?Even though you have a reputation for being mean, you can change it.