It is thought that up to half of the population is made up of people who are not very social.Society seems to make those of us that prefer to spend time alone feel as though we are somehow wrong.The truth is that many people enjoy being alone, and would rather watch a movie on the couch than attend a huge party.Taking steps to accept this about yourself, finding ways to spend time alone, and learning to enjoy going out to do things alone are some of the things you can do if you are a solitary person.You will realize that you are not the only one who is the same, and that there are many other people just like you.
Step 1: Consider why you enjoy being alone.
Just remind yourself of the reasons that you enjoy being alone, if you start feeling as though maybe you should try harder to be more social or worried that maybe there is something wrong with you.You can make a list of the reasons that spending time alone makes you happy.You can refer back to this list whenever you feel like it.Spending time alone allows many "loners" to "recharge their batteries" by engaging in some creative activity or simply relaxing with a good book.
Step 2: Your strengths should be valued.
Extroversion may be seen as the ideal personality by some people.The value of introversion is being pointed out more and more.Some research shows that if you let those below you have a bit more room to try out new ideas, you can be a great leader.Extroverts rely on social interaction and novel experience for their energy, while introverts are more inward focused.An insturment needs time alone and is often drained by social interaction.There is a correlation between being creative and being introverted.Many famous artists, writers, and scientists are thought to be solitary.
Step 3: Accept who you are and move on.
Accepting yourself as you are is the key to becoming happy about being a solitary person.If you want to, you can do things to become more social.If you are alone, why try to do something different?Try to think in a positive way when you find yourself being self-critical.If you find yourself thinking that people think you're a loser because you don't like going to parties, remind yourself that it's difficult for you.I know people don't understand how exhausting a big party is for me, but staying at home makes me feel happy, so I should not worry about what they think.
Step 4: Ignore the rest of the critics and learn what you can from them.
It can be difficult to deal with people who criticize.You really care about someone who criticizes your habits.Someone may make it hard for you to spend time alone.Take time to determine if there is something you can learn from them, or if they can't understand why you enjoy being alone.They might say that you're not trying hard enough to be social or that there is something wrong with you.If you think the person is trying to help, then listen to them.If the person criticizes you because they care about you, then you might want to explain that you need time by yourself to recuperate.Going to parties and having a lot of friends is something you like to do.I enjoy my life and I'm happy.If you don't value someone's opinion or know someone who does, just ignore the criticism.Remember that what they say is a reflection of their own thoughts and beliefs, not an indication of what is right or wrong.
Step 5: You should nurture the relationships that are valuable to you.
You may have good friends or family that you rely on for social support, even if you are a solitary person.You will have the social support you need when things get tough if you nurture these relationships.If you don't feel like you need any friends, then that's all you have to worry about.Try to have a family member that you can rely on in times of need.
Step 6: Take a break from social media.
Limit yourself if you spend a lot of time on social media.There is a lot of evidence that shows social media makes us compare our lives to others, which leaves us feeling inadequate.When you look at social media, remember that people are only posting the best moments from their day, and they may even be exaggerating in their posts.
Step 7: You should make a space for you.
If you live with other people, you probably have a bedroom that's just for you.If you fill it with things that make you feel safe and happy, you can make this your own space.It can be difficult to find a solitary place if you have to share a room with other people.Maybe there is a closet or a small space where nobody goes that you can use to get some alone time.There is a place outside the home that will give you solitude.A park can be a good place to go if you don't mind another person.Close your door if you need to be alone in your room.Place a sign on your door that says you are not to be disturbed if that doesn't deter people.
Step 8: You can get up early or go to bed later.
Try getting up an hour or two earlier than everyone else if you can't find some quiet alone time in your home.Try to go to bed later if that isn't an option.Hopefully this will give you at least a few minutes to enjoy being alone.It's a good idea to be careful with this step.It's possible that getting up earlier or going to bed will result in less sleep.Don't give up too many hours in the name of solitude because sleep is important for staying physically and emotionally healthy.Use this time to be happy.If you can, do something creative, meditate, or get some work done that you aren't able to do when everyone is up and about.
Step 9: Do something that you enjoy.
It can be hard to leave the house as you may wonder what you can do without being weird.There are a lot of things you can do alone to have fun.Going to the movies is a great activity to do alone.Pick up some popcorn and watch a movie you've been wanting to see.Going to the movies with people is great, but when you think about it, you don't talk to each other the whole time the movie is showing, so it seems a bit silly.Try different coffee shops.Coffee shops have become very popular in the past few years, so there are more and more popping up every day.If you like drawing, you can take a book.Just order a coffee or tea and take a few hours out of the house.You should try a restaurant that you're interested in.If you're interested in a restaurant, there's no reason you shouldn't go alone.Try to go during an off-peak time if you're worried about people staring at you.Go for a run or walk.One of the best things to do alone is to enjoy nature.You will be doing something good for you and your health if you go for a walk or jog in a nearby park.
Step 10: Carry a book or wear headphones.
One part of going out in public that can make a person feel nervous is the chance that someone will casually chat with you.If you want to avoid this, put on a pair of headphones or read a book while on public transportation.People will be less likely to engage in chat.No one will talk to you if this isn't true.The outgoing people are hard to deter.Keep your answers short and don't ask questions that will encourage the conversation if someone talks to you and you're not interested.
Step 11: Relax and enjoy the moment.
If you aren't used to going out by yourself to do things, you will feel like everyone is staring at you, which will distract you from enjoying what you are doing.It's not likely that anyone is interested in what you are doing or why you're doing it.Most people are just trying to get on with their day as you spend more and more time outside by yourself.It will take some practice, but focus on how you are feeling when you go out to do something, instead of what you think everyone around you is feeling.If you can't focus on yourself, going out alone may be just as draining as going with other people.
Step 12: Try to talk to someone you haven't talked to in awhile.
It can be very easy to go days or weeks without talking to anyone.You may not have to talk to anyone if you work from home.There is evidence that socializing is good for everyone from time to time.It doesn't have to be a big discussion.It is possible to chat with someone in your class or at a coffee shop.If you want to know how tough the last test was with a student, you can ask the barista.