If you have enough confidence in yourself, you can get the guy you want.You just have to let him see what an amazing and unique girl you are without being too strong.If you take your time to get to know the guy, then you will be able to make him your own.
Step 1: Let him know you are having fun.
If you want to catch the guy's eye, you shouldn't try to make eye contact all day.You should be doing your own thing, having fun with your girlfriends, hitting up the dance floor, or just having a blast without a guy.He will want to be with you if you focus on having a great time and smile at him.It is not possible to be in a good mood all of the time.If you are having a down day, you don't need to fake it.As much as you can, you should cultivate a positive energy.Positive energy is drawn to potential boyfriends and friends.The more you laugh and enjoy the small things in life, like a clear night sky or an adorable puppy, the more people will be attracted to you.
Step 2: Don't let him know how you feel just yet.
If you want to get a guy, you should not be too cold or mysterious, or he may think that you are not very nice.Don't let him see that you really like him by being friendly, introducing yourself, and making a small talk.He will want to talk to you more if you show him that you are fun to chat with.Don't be afraid to ask how he is.If he is wearing a funny shirt, tell him you like it.Don't put too much pressure on your first exchanges, just have fun.Being friendly to other people will make you look like an awesome person.Make an effort to get to know everyone in your circle if you want to be friendly.Compliments can be good.Something as simple as "Hey, you look nice today!"can work well.
Step 3: You should be who you are.
The best thing you can do to get the guy you want is to be yourself, instead of acting like a girl and putting up a front.Don't hide your best qualities, even if they're a bit quirky, because in the end, that's what makes you special.The guy will be on to you much sooner if you are faking it.If you feel like you have to constantly check yourself, you will not be able to fully enjoy yourself.You shouldn't act like a different person, or your connection will not last long, if you want to wait to show your raunchy sense of humor or famous impressions of your cat, Fiddles.
Step 4: There is a chance that you will be flirtatious.
It is possible to get the guy's attention by flirting.While you don't want to come on too strong, making eye contact for a few seconds, giving him a playful touch on the arm, and a bit of playful banter back and forth can help move your relationship along and make the guy more intrigued by you.Don't give him all of your attention, or you'll be putting your cards on the table.A lot of girls don't know how to flirt.If you want to have fun, start with eye contact and break it, and then have some lighthearted, fun conversations.Take a closer look at the guy and see how he reacts.If he gives you a playful push, then respond in kind.You can hug him a little longer or brush his hand.Some girls like to lick their lips when they flirt with guys, so they draw more attention to their mouths.
Step 5: Don't think you are taking yourself too seriously.
It is possible to get the guy to notice you by being fun and lighthearted.It is important to be serious about your goals, dreams, and so on, but it is not necessary to freak out over your chemistry exam or the fact that you spilled something on your shirt.Don't be self-deprecating and learn to laugh at yourself at the right times.The guy will like you more if you know how to take a joke and laugh at yourself.Guys don't like hanging out with girls who make them feel like they're walking on eggshells.Gaining some maturity and perspective is part of not taking yourself so seriously.You need to know that a fight with a friend or a poor math score isn't the end of the world.
Step 6: Don't stand down to him.
If you want the guy to pay attention to you, you have to stand out.It doesn't mean you should dye your hair blue and play the banjo in order to get his attention, but it does mean that you need to be confident doing what you want to do and putting your best foot forward.Maybe you have a sense of humor, dancing skills, or a unique fashion sense.You wouldn't stand out to the guy if you were like everyone else.You should be proud of what makes you different.If you have something that makes you stand out, a guy will be more drawn to you than if you blend in with the crowd.
Step 7: Wow him, you are very confident.
Guys like girls who are confident and don't need validation.To wow a guy with your confidence, you just have to be happy with who you are.Don't question your looks, or ask for reassurance.Stand tall, smile, and let the world see how happy you are.People will be drawn to you if you are happy and comfortable in your skin.Body language can be used to convey confidence.When you are talking to the guy, turn toward him and avoid looking at the floor.Make eye contact, smile, and show that you are confident in your social interactions.People who are confident talk about the people they love and the things they do instead of putting others down.You don't have to be the most confident person in the world all the time.People will want to soak up some of your positive energy if you work on loving the person who you are.
Step 8: You should be realistic.
It's important to be realistic about getting the guy you want.Sometimes two people just aren't compatible or are missing that special spark, and that's when you should have the confidence to feel that you can get any guy you want.It is better to move on from a guy you like if he is not into it.Some girls think that if they don't get a certain guy to be theirs, there's no one else for them, but they just have to open their hearts up to more possibilities.If you have been trying to make it work with a guy who seems busy, distant, or just not very receptive, then it is time to move on to bigger and better things.
Step 9: He needs to be shown a genuine interest in his life.
If you want to keep the guy interested, you have to show him that you really care about him, and you need to get to know him.If you want to know what his interests, friends, family, and life are like, you should make an effort to meet him.When he tells you something important to show that you really do want to know what he is saying, ask him questions about himself from time to time.The guy will quickly get bored if you start talking about yourself and your problems all the time.He should be doing about half of the talking.If you really care about him, you should check in with him when you're not together to see how he's doing.Text him to ask how he did on the test.When he isn't there, show that you're thinking of him.Ask him to talk to you about the things that matter to him if he is knowledgeable about baseball or politics.You can steer the subject in a different direction if you don't want a breakdown of the Oakland A's history for the next three hours.When you're talking to him, keep your eyes off your phone.This shows that you are paying attention to him.
Step 10: Don't push it too far.
It is important to show the guy that you care about, but you should not let him think that he is the one you have been waiting for.If you think this is the case, you and the guy should get to know each other a bit and feel really serious about each others before you start making declarations of love, asking him how many kids he has, or tell him that you can't stop thinking about him.You can open up to each other a bit more if you spend more time together.You should match the guy's pace as much as you can.If he is taking things slowly and not revealing a lot of his feelings yet, then you can take it slow for the time being.You should play it cool if you start hanging out with each other.You don't want to make it seem like you're always available.He will appreciate your time together more.
Step 11: Affirmative him.
It is possible to make the guy see that you care when you compliment him.Don't tell him that you think he looks hot, that it's easy to talk to him, or that he is the most creative person you know.Make an effort to get to know him and to give him a compliment that feels sincere, not just something that is calculated to make him like you more.It should be simple.You have a natural way of talking to new people.I would like to do that, I have never met someone who knows as much about history as you do.
Step 12: Bond over the ground.
You and the guy you like will want to find something in common once you have explored that initial attraction.It is possible to have a few things that you can talk about and do with each other in order to keep your relationship going strong.It's possible to bond over liking the same oldies, hiking, going to baseball games, or wanting to try every new restaurant in town.What matters is that you find a few interests to explore together.A new popular band, a new bowling alley in your town, or going hiking together when neither of you have done it before are all new interests that you can explore together.
Step 13: Check in with him.
If you want him to see that you really care about him, then you should check in with him when you're not together.If you want to see how his game went or wish him luck on something important, you can send him occasional calls or texts, even if you don't see each other.Make sure you check in with each other at the same time.It shouldn't be a problem.Some guys are not big phone talkers.Don't call him just to chat, he wants to plan your next date.
Step 14: Let him know that you are open to him.
Your conversations will deepen as your relationship progresses.You should open up to the guy and let him know what's on your mind.As you get closer, let him know about your childhood, your friends, and your relationship with your family members.He will be drawn to you if he feels like he is getting to know you more and more.Take your time.He may not know how to respond if you don't let him know before you reveal the big stuff.Take the time to really listen when he opens up to you.
Step 15: Give him something to be thankful for.
Any relationship can benefit from some affection.You can hold the guy's hand, give him kisses, place a hand on his knee, or hug him.As you get closer, you should give him some physical attention to see how much he means to you.Don't move forward at a faster pace than makes you comfortable, and only be affectionate because that's what you really want.Different guys have different approaches.Some people don't like being affectionate in public.The guy doesn't want to be seen with you, but he is a little shy about making his private feelings public.You can find a compromise if holding hands in public is important to you.
Step 16: He should be kept guessing a bit.
If you want to keep the guy hooked, you have to act like you are at his beck and call, because he has no idea what is going on in your mind.If you are busy one night, you don't have to answer the phone every time he calls.You can tell him that you like him without telling him everything you know about him.He will be more drawn to you if you keep him guessing.Guys like it when a girl keeps them on their toes.The guy will be less excited to see you if he knows what to expect.You do not want to get to the point that he doesn't think you like him at all.Make sure he believes in you.
Step 17: Try new things with each other.
You have to keep things fresh if you want the relationship to stay interesting.You should always keep him on his toes and find new things to do together because falling into the same old routine can make that fire flame out pretty fast.As long as you work to keep your relationship exciting and fun, it doesn't matter what you do.Taking up ballroom dancing, learning to cook French cuisine, or taking a road trip once a month are all possibilities.
Step 18: His friends should be friendly with him.
It is important for you to bond with his friends as long as you are together.While you don't have to be best friends with them, you should spend some time together, build up a good relationship, and make sure that they are not keeping him from being who he is.If you want the relationship to last, you shouldn't force him to choose between you or his friends.You don't have to hang out with his friends every second of the day, but when you do see them, say hi and ask how they're doing.If you are serious about the guy, then you should be interacting with his friends a lot in the future.
Step 19: Some traditions for the two of you.
If you want your relationship to stay interesting, you and your man should find things that are only for you.Developing some traditions is important to the success of your relationship.It can be as simple as going jogging together every Sunday, going hiking outside of the city once a month, or finding a bar where you play pool and split a pitcher of beer.There are things that can help define your relationship.Traditions can help your relationship feel special and unique and give you more things to look forward to.
Step 20: Things should progress at their own pace.
It is not possible to pressure your guy to move forward faster than he is ready to do.If you want to get married, have kids, or just want him to meet your parents, you have to slow down and wait for the right time.If you force your boyfriend to take the next step, he may feel suffocated and less excited to move forward with you.You shouldn't force your boyfriend to do what your friends are doing.You should make a decision to move forward.It should not be about waiting for the guy to make the move or putting the pressure on.
Step 21: While maintaining your independence, grow closer.
It is natural that the longer you date, the more time you will spend together.It is important to not lose sight of who you are apart from your guy and to continue to make time for your hobbies, friends, and family.If you spend time apart doing your own thing, you will grow as individuals while helping your relationship grow stronger.It is important to always make time for your girlfriends, no matter how serious things are with your guy.They can help you get perspective and remind you of the person you are apart from.If you and your guy spend more time apart, you will be more excited to see each other.
Step 22: Let him know how much you care about him.
You should never forget to say "I love you" or to let your guy know how much you care if you are serious about each other.You should not assume that he knows how you feel about him.You can't get lazy with your love and make assumptions if you want your relationship to last.Honesty is important in your relationship.Girls and boys can be romantic.Plan a date to sweep him off his feet, go on a surprise weekend trip in the mountains, or spend your anniversary at the same ice cream shop you went on your first date.He will do the same for you if you keep showing how much you love him.