Yeats wrote "O love is a crooked thing, there is nobody wise enough to find out what is in it."Even if you've been dating for a while, it's hard to tell if someone is in love with you.Paying attention to your girlfriend's words and actions, as well as recognizing the qualities of a long term commitment, could help you determine if she loves you.
Step 1: It's important to know the difference between falling in love and staying love.
Falling in love with someone is a very passive and emotional experience.Staying in love can be very difficult and requires a more active approach to the relationship.Think of love as an action you have to continue to reinforce and support as you move forward in your relationship.If your relationship is just as good, if not better, than when you first fell in love, consider how your girlfriend contributes to it.Every day, your girlfriend can reinforce and commit to the relationship through action and words.
Step 2: Discuss how you deal with conflict in your relationship.
Fight, Flight, and Freeze behaviors are common among couples with poor conflict resolution skills.They fight and stay angry for a long time.They sweep them under the rug to avoid difficult issues.They shut down emotionally, blocking out attempts to communicate or discuss the issue.Successful couples who are committed to the relationship for the long term will try to solve any problems and let them go.Rather than attacking each other, they will focus on taking care of the issue.In a healthy, loving relationship, both partners should be able to forgive and forget, as any resentment that is not addressed and dealt with can lead to further drama or conflict down the line and will work against sustaining the relationship for the long term.
Step 3: Do you both have the same priorities and life goals?
This is an important step to committing to being with your girlfriend and will be important for her commitment to you.Compatibility in your tastes and preferences, as well as your values, priorities, and life goals, will help to create a deep and lasting connection between you and your girlfriend.
Step 4: If you and your girlfriend have four dimensions of intimacy, you should figure that out.
Ronald Adler and Russell Proctor II identified four ways in which we can feel connected to our significant other.To find out if you and your girlfriend have all four dimensions of intimacy, complete the following exercise.Top the list of dimensions with partner A and partner B.If you're in a relationship, rank it by whether it's aMust have, Should have or Could have.You can have your partner rank the dimensions by passing the list to them.Do you think your partner would prioritize these dimensions?The possibilities of an intimate and long term relationship can be increased by the moreMust-Must combinations between you and your partner.Since no relationship is static, especially a loving one, the rankings may evolve to be even more compatible over time.Understanding each other's priorities, especially in these core areas, will help to ensure long term success in a relationship and staying in love.
Step 5: Ask your friends and family how they feel about your girlfriend.
If the people closest to you are encouraging you to break up with your girlfriend, this could be a sign that the person is not for you.If your friends and family support your relationship with your girlfriend and think you have long term potential together, it is usually a positive sign.
Step 6: When she's talking to you, listen to the tone of her voice.
You can compare how she talks to you with how others talk to her.If your partner uses a sweet, caring, and compassionate tone when talking to you, it's likely she considers you a special person in her life and cares deeply about you.
Step 7: If she wants to spend most of her time with you, notice.
If your partner is trying to balance other commitments like school, work, or family, investing time in a relationship is a good indicator of long term commitment.Someone who cares about you will use whatever time they have to spend alone with you.It is believed that high levels of serotonin in the brain can cause you to think about a partner.When your partner calls you or talks to you, it's a sign of their feelings of love for you.
Step 8: When she sees you, think about if she asks about your day.
This gesture will show that she is interested in the small details of your life.The check ins will help build a practical, supportive element to your relationship by keeping the lines of communication open.
Step 9: There are signs that she respects your opinion.
Maybe you have different views on politics or risotto.She should still listen to your views and treat them with respect.If your partner truly cares about you, they should be willing to listen to and discuss your ideas, even if they don't agree with them.She should be comfortable with including you in decisions, from mundane things like where you should eat dinner to high-stake questions like whether she should accept a new position at work.She should still be interested in hearing what you have to say, even if she doesn't always take your advice.
Step 10: If she doesn't ask where you are, notice.
A partner who truly cares will give you the benefit of the doubt and will not check your credit card bills to see who you are with as they will be committed to trusting you.A big sign of a long term commitment is this kind of trust.
Step 11: Consider if your girlfriend makes you feel good about yourself.
A partner who cares about you will boost your self-esteem.Positive reinforcement and love should be provided by them.This doesn't mean your relationship will always be a bed of roses, but overall, you should feel like your girlfriend gives you self-confidence and support.If you are in a relationship with someone who makes you feel good, you will want to spend more time with them and less time apart from them.
Step 12: It is possible to create an intimate setting.
Declarations of love, whether from you or from her, might be harder to do in a crowded room, so make dinner at home or take her to a secluded spot in the park where you can have a deep conversation about your feelings.This will make you both more comfortable talking openly and honestly.
Step 13: It's important to be honest and simple.
Being straightforward and blunt will give you the best chance of knowing how your girlfriend feels about you.
Step 14: Don't be afraid to show emotion.
Don't be shy about showing your emotions, your girlfriend may need some encouragement to tell you about her feelings for you.If you feel strongly about her, let her know so she can share how she feels about you.