You should make a good first impression on the parents.
Meeting your date's parents can be nerve-racking, especially if you're on the spectrum.
Step 1: Ask your partner if they follow their parents' example.
Are they relaxed or formal?Should you call Ma'am, Mrs. Ramirez, or Mom?Are they fond of hugging or shaking hands?You can have a sense of how to fit in if they tell you about their manners.
Step 2: You can ask about the dress code.
Depending on the personality of the parents and where the group is going, you'll want to dress differently.Before the event, talk to your partner about what to expect.
Step 3: Discuss any of the parents' pet peeves with your partner.
What did their parents say about their exes?How difficult is it to impress?Is there any subject that is off-limits?
Step 4: Some of the questions are more difficult to answer.
What would you want to know about your child's date?Get a general idea of how you would answer the questions.Your background (religion, childhood, education, etc.) is your future.You are committed to their child.
Step 5: You don't need to be messed up if you prepare some conversation topics.
It's important to have a few things on hand because small talk can be difficult.Ask your date about recent vacations, sports teams, and other things that their parents like to talk about.What was your partner like when you were a child?Where have they been?What did they think about those places?What is their job like?
Step 6: If you are visiting for the first time, you should bring a gift.
Try some flowers or a bottle of wine.It makes a good first impression and shows that you're thoughtful.When you first arrive, you can give the gift.
Step 7: It's a good idea to consider whether or not you want to talk about your diagnosis.
How hard it is to act normal depends on how obvious your symptoms are.It's good to have a brief explanation if it comes up.You'll need to gently correct some of the myths that people have about the condition.Say that you have a disability if you don't want to say you're autistic.Assure them that it's not a big deal.Nobody has the right to know about your disability.Tell them if you want to do it.
Step 8: You have enough time to get ready.
It's important to have enough time so you don't feel rushed.
Step 9: Take a shower for at least 15 minutes.
You don't need to scrub any part of your body.To make sure you scrub each part, it might be helpful to scrub everything multiple times.Put your hair in a bag and wash it off.
Step 10: You should spend some time on your hair, face and hygiene.
You should wash your face and brush your teeth.If you want, you can brush your hair and style it.The facial hair should be shaved.If you wear makeup, keep it light and good at what you do.
Step 11: Get some help with your clothes.
Ask your date for specific advice on how to adhere to the dress code, and remember what they said about it.Ask your loved one to help pick out a fitting outfit.For a very casual meeting, wear nicer clothes.The clothes should be clean and laid back.For more conservative parents, you should wear clothes similar to the ones you would wear to church.Try shirts with ties and skirts.If you want to wear jewelry, keep it simple and neat.You should dress like you would for a wedding or job interview.Pick your clothes.Consider a tie or dress.
Step 12: Being overdressed is on the other side.
Being a little overdressed shows that you want to impress them and is better than being underdressed.The parents will probably appreciate the effort.
Step 13: If you dress femininely, keep your outfit Modest.
You don't know how traditional parents are, so a low-cut top or short skirt may lead to sexist commentary and speculations on how promiscuous you are.It's probably something you want to avoid, because it doesn't make it okay or your responsibility.Make sure that your bra doesn't show, and that you wear clothes that are not see-through.You don't want to show much of your thigh.
Step 14: A stim toy is what you should bring.
Try an elegant tangle toy, a stress ball, or a silent stim toy.Something small will fit in a pocket or purse.It may spark conversation if it's attractive or unique.You don't have to talk about it.They'll accept the explanation if you say "I like to fiddle with things while I talk."The most subtle stims are silent.If you need something in your mouth, chew gum, hum, and use replacement stims.
Step 15: Come on time or a little early.
It shows that you care if you're on time.It will have helped if you gave yourself more time to get ready.You can hang out at a park until it's time if you show up more than 5 minutes early.It will confuse them if they wait in their driveway.
Step 16: If you pull up in front of the house, walk to the front door.
It's a good idea to stay out of the grass.Wait quietly when you ring the doorbell.
Step 17: Your date's parents will be very pleased.
Follow the parents' lead when it comes to whether they want to shake hands or hug.If you aren't comfortable with eye contact, fake it by looking at their nose, eyebrows, or chin.Say, "It's great to finally meet you!"
Step 18: Go inside when you're invited.
Should you take off your shoes or where to put them?If you're wearing a jacket, take it off and ask where you can hang it.You can either hang it yourself or someone will take it for you.If you brought a gift, this is a good time to give it.
Step 19: Either two or two.
Maybe they have a beautiful staircase, the father is an excellent cook, or the mother is wearing elegant shoes.You won't come off as insincere if you say one or two nice things.
Step 20: Be who you are.
Being yourself and being on your best behavior is important.Say "please" and "thank you", use good language, and try to be respectful and kind.Work on being a good person.
Step 21: You should be attentive to your partner.
Hold the door for them or pull their chair back if you want to pour them drinks or get them things.The parents want to know that you treat their child well and respect their date.It's generally accepted to place your arm around your partner or hand on their shoulder.If you want to show your affection in front of the parents, avoid kissing beyond a quick peck, touching in intimate places (butt, breasts, crotch), and other public displays of affection.
Step 22: Find things that are similar to the parents.
Talk to them about something you like if they mention it.You will be able to connect over a shared interest.Sports Geographic locations Favorite hangouts Music Favorite books
Step 23: Most of the time, let them lead the conversation.
Ask questions that get people to keep talking.Listening is easier than talking for many people.
Step 24: Offer to help clean up at home after a meal.
This is a way to show how thoughtful and helpful you are.You can put things away, dry the dishes, or carry plates to the dishwasher.
Step 25: When the visit is over, goodbye.
If the parents want to shake hands or hug, follow their lead.If you leave with your date, the parents may tell you when to come back.Let yourself relax now that it's over.The parents will probably watch you leave, so open the car door for your partner, wait until you both have your seat belts on, and then drive away safely.