It's natural that you would want to date a girl who has the same values as you do, as your Christian faith is an important part of your life.You might still be attracted to the morals embodied by a Christian girl even if you're not a believer.There are things you can do to make a Christian girl like you, like living a clean life and courting her respectfully, even though you don't have to.
Step 1: The first thing you should do is put God first.
It helps to have the same priorities if you want a long-term relationship with a girl who's a Christian.Try to find ways to strengthen your relationship with God by reflecting on his role in your life.You might start each day with a 15-minute devotion where you read your Bible and pray.Being active in your church can help you become closer to God, and it also provides you with the chance to be taught by older Christians who have been there before.As your relationship with God develops, you may be led to avoid situations where you might be tempted to sin, like a party where there will be drinking, or doing something you'll have to lie to your parents about.
Step 2: To be stable, you need to be responsible.
It's important to be dependable if you want to attract a Christian girl.Christian girls want to know that their partner is someone they can marry, so they don't date frivolously.Try to do your best at work or school.Over time, you'll build a reputation that will show a girl that she can trust you to do your part in providing for a household.
Step 3: Try to live a good life.
If you want a Christian girl to like you, you need to embody the virtues described in the Bible.If you notice that there is an area of your life where you are struggling, please pray that God will help you overcome that.If you find yourself dealing with those feelings, say a prayer and remind yourself that it's more important to be good than bad.You can read and reflect on the quote "Love is patient, love is kind".It is not proud and does not envy.It does not disrespect others, it is not self-seeking, and it keeps no record of wrongs.Love is happy with the truth.It always protects, always trusts and always hopes.
Step 4: Your body language is a good indicator of confidence.
If you want a girl to like you, try to project an air of confidence by standing up straight, making eye contact, and being friendly with others.Even if you don't feel that way, this will make you feel more confident.Confidence is a good thing, but arrogance isn't.If you like a girl, try to listen to her more than you talk about yourself.
Step 5: If you're ready for commitment, you should pursue her.
The idea is to find the person God has chosen as your future spouse, so it's important to be intentional about dating.You don't have to marry someone just because the two of you date, but you should date with the idea that you might eventually marry that person if you're compatible.Don't be surprised if she's not interested in dating casually if you're not sure you are ready for that level of commitment.
Step 6: Follow God's will.
To be a good partner for someone else, you need to be happy in your life.You need to listen for God's directions in order to do this.He may give you a passion for a certain profession or you may be called to serve Him as a member of the clergy.Listen to your heart, pray, and read your Bible if you want to learn God's direction for you.
Step 7: When you see the girl you like, make small talk.
When you see the girl you want to attract, try to have a conversation.She won't have a chance to fall in love with you if you never speak up.You might say something like, "Hey Hannah, how was your week?" if you only see her at church on Sundays.When you have the chance, try to sit or stand near her.Ask her about her interests, hobbies, and friends.
Step 8: If she's interested in you, pay attention to her gestures.
Don't assume that she's interested in dating you because you have regular conversations with her.You can get an idea of how she feels by paying attention to the way she acts around you.She might be interested if she makes eye contact with you when you're talking or when she smiles at you.She could play with her hair, lean toward you when you're talking, or make her expression friendlier if she likes you.She may not be the girl God chose for you if she doesn't seem interested.She may not know you well enough.When you cross paths with her, keep talking until you have a better idea of how she feels about you.
Step 9: As part of a group, ask her to spend time with you.
If you think the girl you like might be interested in you, invite her to hang out with you and a few other friends.It's fine if you start out as friends, because that will show her that you have a genuine interest in getting to know her.You could say, "Hey Kyla, I heard some of the kids from the youth group are going to a praise concert next weekend, and I was thinking of going."Do you want to join me?Whether or not you want to call this a date is up to you.It's okay to go as friends if you want to take a little more time to get to know each other.You can tell her that if you really like her.If you're ready to let her know how you feel about her, you might say, "Some of my friends are meeting for pizza tomorrow night."Do you want to go with me?
Step 10: Don't be afraid to show who you are.
As the two of you get to know each other better, be willing to open up to her.You don't have to tell her everything about yourself at once, but as you get more comfortable, share some of the meaningful things that have happened in your life.She'll be able to make an honest decision about whether you're a good match for her if she feels more connected to you.You might tell a girl that you love fishing when you first meet her.It's a way for you to remember your grandpa, as you get closer, because he took you fishing when you were young.
Step 11: Ask her how she is.
You shouldn't rush into asking out the first pretty girl you see, but you should let her know how you feel.Let her know that you really like this girl once you feel comfortable.It's best to find a quiet time when you are alone because the way you do this is up to you.Don't be afraid to let her know what makes her special.You could say, "Rebecca, I love how true you are to your faith and the way you care about everyone."I would love to date you.Will you be my girlfriend?You can ask her through a text message or a note.
Step 12: If she says no, respect it.
If you ask a girl out and she says no, remind yourself that it isn't part of God's plan right now.Try to put on a smile, tell her it's okay, and take some time to process your emotions."Okay, I understand," you might say.I hope I didn't make you feel uncomfortable.I hope we can still be friends, because I think you're really special.Excuse yourself.No matter what, be proud of yourself.Asking someone out is hard, but you should be happy that you did it.