Being in a relationship can be wonderful.You might feel a strong connection with someone who cares about you.Feelings of jealousy can cause problems in a relationship.You may find yourself questioning your partner, acting possessively, and making accusations.It's possible to be less possessive of your partner.All you have to do is calm yourself, build trust, and prevent possessive behavior in the future.
Step 1: Take a timeout.
Taking a time out to evaluate yourself is a good idea if you feel like you're becoming too possessive of your partner.You can take a break and think about what you are doing and what effect it will have on your relationship.If you notice that you are starting to feel possessive because the server is smiling at you all, please excuse yourself for a moment.If you can't leave the immediate area, take a mental timeout.If you want to focus on your breathing, take three slow, deep breaths.This situation is making you feel possessive, so use the time to ask yourself why.Ask yourself if you are feeling jealous.Insecure?Why am I possessive?
Step 2: It's appropriate to express yourself.
It's okay to be a little jealous.It's okay to let your partner know that you're feeling this way as long as you do it in the right way.If you talk to your partner and express your feelings of jealousy in a calm, mature way, you can be less possessive of them.Tell your partner how you are feeling and what makes you feel good.Let your partner know what they can do to help you.Say something like, "I'm feeling possessive right now."I think I'm jealous of the attention you're getting.
Step 3: When you need to apologize.
Sometimes you can show how possessive you are by doing something.You need to apologize to your partner and anyone else involved in the situation if this happens.If you are rude to a salesclerk because you felt possessive when they greeted your partner, then you should apologize to them.You might say, "I'm sorry for the way I just behaved" when apologizing to someone else.It was uncalled for and won't happen again.I felt like I was controlling.It's not an excuse, but what happened.
Step 4: Relationship issues should be addressed.
You may feel possessive in some cases because of the things that have happened in the relationship.You should address the issues with your partner if this is the case.You can resolve the issues by knowing where your relationship stands, and you can start being less possessive of your partner.Tell your partner that you want to discuss some of the issues in the relationship.Have an open and honest conversation about the things that have been bothering you.It can take more than one conversation and a bit of time to resolve issues such as past betrayals.Leaving these unresolved can lead to a lack of trust.
Step 5: Trust your partner.
A successful relationship is dependent on trust.You have to trust that your partner cares about you and that they are honest with you.Being too possessive can send a message to your partner that you don't trust them.You should be less possessive with your partner if you have faith in their actions.When your partner says they are going somewhere, trust them.If they are faithful, you don't need to check on them.You should believe what your partner tells you.If your partner is dishonest, you should not trust what they say.You should have faith in your partner's feelings.Your partner will care about you as much as they say they do.
Step 6: Take care of your partner.
Being possessive can cause you to act in ways that are disrespectful to your partner, yourself, or others.You can say or do things that are offensive.If you show your partner the respect they deserve, you can be less possessive and build a stronger relationship.Talk about your partner with respect.Don't say things to make them feel bad.Your partner's privacy should be respected.Don't go through your partner's things or read their texts without their permission, this leads to misunderstanding.
Step 7: Discuss your relationship with your partner.
You should talk to your partner if you realize that you need to be less possessive.It is possible to stop acting on jealousy and possessive thoughts by talking about it with your partner.Tell your partner that you have been acting possessive.You could say, "Can we talk?"Explain to your partner how you have been feeling and why you are feeling that way.It's possible to say, "I've been feeling jealous because of some past relationship issues I have."This should be a discussion between you.You need to understand how possessive you are.
Step 8: Tell yourself the truth.
One of the first steps in becoming less possessive is recognizing that you might be too possessive.You have to be honest with yourself about why you are acting this way.Being honest with yourself will allow you to address any issues that are making you possessive of your partner.Do you think you're possessive because of something from your past?Did your previous partner leave you for someone else?Is it possible that there was infidelity in your family when you were younger?Determine if your partner is doing something that makes you possessive.Do your partner flirt a lot with other people?Tell the truth about any self-esteem issues you are having.Do you feel unattractive or that your partner is too good to be with you?
Step 9: You should have confidence in yourself.
You may act possessively because of your feelings.You might feel like you don't deserve your partner.If you think you might be acting possessive because of your self-doubt, build your confidence so that you can be less possessive.A list of all the great qualities about you can be kept in a journal.List all the things that make you happy, from your great eyes to your sense of humor.Positive self-talk can be used.When your partner gives you a compliment or does something to show you that they care, write it down on a piece of paper.
Step 10: Take care of yourself.
It's easy to get jealous when you're tired, stressed, or just don't feel well.You don't have the energy to fight jealousy or possessive behavior.If you take the time to make sure you are taking care of yourself, you can be less possessive of your partner.It's important to eat balanced meals and snacks to make sure you're getting all the vitamins and minerals you need.Get a lot of physical activity.This will help you stay calm when you start feeling jealous and possessive.Try to get at least 6 hours of sleep each night.You can get the rest you need by setting up a regular routine.
Step 11: Seek the help of a professional.
When possessiveness becomes extreme, you end up hurting your relationship and causing your partner emotional, mental, or even physical pain.Seek professional help if your partner says you need to be less possessive.If you want to become less possessive of your partner, a counselor or therapist can help.You can talk to your religious leader if you are in a religious community.Can we talk about some of the problems I'm having in my relationship later?A marriage, family, or relationship counselor can help you and your partner address any relationship issues that you all are having.