It doesn't feel good when someone calls you names.It can hurt your feelings when someone makes fun of you, or criticizes you.If you deal with people that put you down, they will stop doing it and leave you alone.You can take care of yourself if you know how to deal with it.
Step 1: Do not respond immediately.
Don't react immediately to someone putting you down.His behavior will be reinforced if he gives a quick comeback or gets angry.It's not good for you to act out of anger or other negative emotions.You can either say something you regret, or you can damage yourself with stress.Take a deep breath.This will calm you down.Make sure you are calm as you slowly count to five.
Step 2: If you retaliate, don't.
If you respond with a put-down of your own, you can make her seem unimportant.It won't solve the problem and can increase the tension.Retaliating gives her what she wants.Don't reply to rude comments and posts with mean posts of your own, even though you might want to.Gossiping about her later is not advisable.It doesn't do anything to solve the problem in the moment.
Step 3: Don't pay attention to it.
Silence is the best weapon.The pleasure of a response from you is denied if you ignore someone that is putting you down.It prevents you from wasting time and energy on someone that isn't worth it.Her bad behavior will stand out against your good behavior.Just act like she didn't say anything.Continue doing what you are doing.Unless the person is incredibly thick-headed, she will usually leave you alone.
Step 4: The person should be told to stop.
You want the person to know that you want him to stop putting you down.If ignoring the person didn't work, telling him to stop can help resolve the problem.Make sure you are calm.Look in his eyes and use a clear voice.If you are insulted by a peer, take a few deep breaths and say, "Stop putting me down."You might say, "I know you didn't mean to, but what you said hurt my feelings, so I want you to stop putting me down."Please don't let that happen to me.
Step 5: Understand why the person is doing it.
Some people put others down for a variety of reasons.It may not be meant to hurt you.Understanding the person's motives can help you deal with her.Some people do it because they are jealous.They are trying to make you feel bad about yourself.Some people do it because they want to impress someone.The coworker criticizes your work in front of the supervisor.Others don't realize they are doing it.The grandmother said, "That's a nice shirt."Sometimes people aren't trying to be mean or hurt your feelings.They might consider it harmless teasing.A friend calls you short stuff.
Step 6: Take a line.
You can ignore some comments.Other comments are mean and should be addressed.You can determine how to address the situation by deciding where that line is.It may be annoying when your brother puts you down.He's probably not trying to hurt your feelings, but he probably doesn't mean it.Unless it gets out of hand, you don't want to address it with him.A co-worker that makes rude remarks to you will probably need to be addressed.The person is crossing the line if they are insulted a lot.
Step 7: Talk to people you work with.
People who don't know you well are probably doing it for a bad reason.Let them know that it's not okay to cause a scene.It is possible to have the conversation in private.She no longer needs to put on a show for other people and maintain the respect of both of you.You might say, "During the discussion you made some harsh comments about my idea."Constructive feedback is appreciated, but not insulted.If she starts putting you down while you are trying to talk to her, then stop the conversation.You may need to report the behavior if it continues.
Step 8: You should be assertive with your friends and family.
Sometimes teasing can go too far and you need to tell the person to stop.As you tell her to stop or insult you, don't laugh.She won't take you seriously and the put-down will continue.When you tell her to stop, use a calm, clear voice.For example, "Hahaha."It's not a good idea to tell your sister to stop putting you down.In a calm, serious voice, say, "Ok, look her in the eyes."That's enough.If she doesn't stop, tell her, "I was serious when I asked you to stop" and then leave.She will most likely apologize to you.When we are serious, those closest to us don't know.
Step 9: Be respectful.
Sometimes we are put down by our parents, teachers, or supervisors.Let these people know that they bother you and that you want them to stop.The person knows what he is doing and how you feel about it.Dealing with the situation long-term is an important step.When dealing with put-down from superiors, it's a good idea to check with your Human Resources Department.If you are comfortable talking to him one-on-one, you should.It will make the conversation less awkward.I know I don't always get everything done, but please do not call me lazy.If you don't feel comfortable talking to him one-on-one or if you feel he is putting you down on purpose, tell another adult.
Step 10: The person's words are not of you.
She wouldn't put down other people if she were a happy person.She is most likely doing this to other people.She wins if you let her put-down get to you.Don't allow her to make you feel bad about yourself or lower your self-esteem.You can remind yourself of your positive characteristics by making a list.She said something about you.Write three things that prove the put-down isn't true.List all the nice things other people have to say about you.
Step 11: There are stress management strategies.
It can be difficult to have someone put you down if it's on a regular basis.Use stress reduction techniques to help you deal with the person that is putting you down and the stress it is causing you.When a person is around you, practice deep breathing and meditation.It can help you with stress and you may even be able to tune the person out when he is bothering you.If you want to release tension, try jogging or swimming.
Step 12: Please ask for support.
If the person is putting you down all the time or is really mean, you should ask for help.Tell someone if the person is an authority figure like a teacher, parent or supervisor.It helps if you use your support systems.They can help you if it's happening or if you want to report it.Tell someone you're aware of what's happening.She can understand the situation if she is given as many details as possible.She can help you deal with the person putting you down.It could be as simple as asking a friend to be with you when you tell someone to stop.It could be that the person should be reported to the proper authorities.
Step 13: Hang out with good people.
Spending time with people with a good attitude is a great way to handle stress.It helps you take care of yourself.It is possible to reduce stress by hanging with positive people.It can make you forget about the person who put you down.Try to get to know people that are uplifting.Do something fun instead of talking about the person putting you down.