It's necessary to interact with people who you don't like.In interacting with these people, you often have to show a lot of maturity and self control.Maybe you have been required to give a compliment to someone you hate in class, or maybe the person has done something that you admire and you want to let them know.You can compliment someone you dislike by being genuine, delivering your compliment with tact, and handling their response calmly.
Step 1: Think about their positive attributes.
All of their positive attributes need to be considered before you approach them.Few people are all bad, even if you hate them.Think about all the times you have seen this person display intelligence, humor or maturity.If you were mandated to give this person a compliment, this will be helpful.
Step 2: Don't give backhanded compliment.
Don't give them an insult that is veiled as a compliment.If you say something like "WOW, you don't usually look that great but today you look nice, Josh", they will either give you a true compliment or not say anything at all.
Step 3: The compliment should be specific.
Don't be overly vague when you compliment them.It's better to be specific and genuine.Don't say something like "You are a nice person,Claire", instead you can say "Claire, the other day I saw you when you helped that elderly lady who was being taken advantage of in the store."You made sure they weren't overcharging her.That was very admirable of you.
Step 4: Talk to them in the mirror.
You might be afraid of what their reaction will be if you compliment them with this compliment.Give them a compliment in the mirror.Try not to look agitated or stern as well as manage your facial expressions.You could even practice with a friend.
Step 5: Stay calm.
You might feel stressed or annoyed when you see this person.If you breathe slowly and deeply through your nose and mouth, you can keep calm.A family trip to the beach can calm you down if you think of a memory that you have had.
Step 6: Non verbal reactions can be managed.
Be aware of the story that your body language is telling when approaching them.You don't want them to see your compliment as aggression.Don't look away, keep your arms and legs uncrossed, and respect their personal space.
Step 7: Practice detaching from reality.
One way to approach and manage the situation is to be detached.Pretend you don't know them or that you are someone else when you compliment them.Let them focus on the task at hand and not worry about what they have said or done in the past.
Step 8: Look at them.
Walk up to this person with confidence.They will know you are coming to them on friendly terms if you greet them with a "hello" and a smile.If you are okay in the moment, you might want to ask them how their day is going.
Step 9: Give them a compliment.
It's time to compliment them.Something has been on your mind that you want to tell them.Give the compliment respectfully, calmly and kindly.As much as possible, be self controlled when you are doing that.Say something like, "Jess, I know we have had our differences, but I wanted to let you know that I admired what you did in class the other day when you stood up for Arnold."You could say something like "So, as you know we're both in Communications class together and Mr. Chavis gave us this compliment assignment."I wanted to let you know that I think you are smart and that you dress well.
Step 10: Explain why you compliment them.
This person knows that you dislike them and might be confused as to why you compliment them.Explain your reasoning in a way that is easy to understand.You could say something like, "I wanted to let you know that I really care about the issue of bullied people and that's why I'm happy that you did that."Even though we don't like each other, I think it's important to show others that you can be nice to people even if you do not get along.
Step 11: Don't let your hate get to you.
Even though you are nice to this person, you might still hate them.Don't mention how much you dislike them, just keep the fact that you hate them to yourself.Allow this moment to be about the compliment.
Step 12: Allow them to reply.
You should give them a few moments to respond after you've spoken.They might thank you for your laugh, compliment, say something mean, or be in complete shock that you have even spoken to them.If they start insulting you, let them respond without interruption.
Step 13: When they are negative, be positive.
Don't fret, even if they choose to be negative to you after you have made a nice statement.Leave the situation if you keep a positive attitude.You will find some comfort and joy in the fact that you have done something that very few people ever do.You can tell Andy that his compliment is not being received well.I need to leave since you are attacking me, but I don't regret telling you.Have a good day.