If you're in a relationship or not, the other person may be giving you mixed signals.You can handle the problem by starting a conversation, but you can also use indirect ways to see if the person is interested in you.It is possible that you want to be with the other person or not.
Step 1: Do you want to read too much into the situation?
If you're just flirting with a person, you may see it as more flirtatious than it is.Studies show that men are guilty of this problem.Men are more likely to see an innocent gesture as flirtatious than women are.It is possible that the person is not giving you mixed signals.It is possible that the person is simply being nice or friendly, and you are reading more into it than you should.
Step 2: Look at the person's social interactions.
If you don't know whether the person is flirting with you or not, pay attention to how they interact with other people.They're not likely to flirt with you if he or she is treating everyone the same.They may be flirting with you if you seem to be getting special attention.
Step 3: Positive signals to be sent.
Positive signals can be given if you're not the type to address something head-on.If the person is sending mixed signals because they don't know if you're into them, you can assure them.That is, laugh at the person's jokes, touch his or her arm when you're talking, and look into their eyes.If you use body language to indicate you're interested, they may reciprocate.
Step 4: If you want to go on a date, open the door.
If you don't want to ask someone out, use an indirect method.You're not setting yourself up for major rejection if you give them an opening.You could casually mention your plans for the weekend, such as "I'm excited about this weekend"I'm going to see a great independent film on Saturday.A person might ask to tag along if they are interested.If you want to open the door a bit more, what are your plans?Are you going to tag along?
Step 5: You can address the issue directly.
Instead of beating around the bush, you can bring it up directly.You can get it out in the open.The person can either accept or reject the idea.You can go on a date if the person likes you.If you want to know if someone likes you, you could say, "I noticed you seem to flirt when I'm around."What would you think about going on a date?Do not do this step at work.Inter-office dating could cause trouble for you later, as most workplace frown on it.
Step 6: The person should be given some space.
To let the person figure out his or her feelings is one option.The person may realize one of two things if you back off.The person may miss you and then decide that they really want to be with you.If the person doesn't miss you, they may find it easy to move on.You have an answer, either way.
Step 7: The subject should be approached head-on.
If you're getting mixed signals from your boyfriend or girlfriend, the best way to deal with it is to bring it up with him or her.The person may not know they're giving off signals.Consider how far along you are in the relationship.If you've only been on a couple of dates, having a serious commitment talk is going to scare the other person off.You can bring it up if you want, just keep it lighthearted.If you're just trying to see if someone likes you, you will approach the conversation differently if you don't know if the person is into you or not.
Step 8: Tell us what you're feeling.
Bring up the topic."I" statements are used to describe what you've been feeling."You" statements can be accusatory and make the other person feel defensive, while "I"statements focus on the problem and what you're feeling.You don't want to say that you are wishy-washy.You should make a decision.You could say, "I feel like I've been getting mixed signals from you lately."I don't know if you really want to be with me.If you're still new to a relationship, you could say something like, "I know we've only been on a few dates, but I like you a lot."I'm curious if we are on the same page.
Step 9: End the relationship.
Simply ending the relationship is another option.It's appropriate to move on if you feel the other person is playing with you.You should have someone who wants to be with you who will let you know.
Step 10: You can learn how to give mixed signals.
Mixed signals are not given on purpose by some people.Mixed signals are a sign of a deeper problem, usually a conflict between opposing values.Some people always want what's on the other side.They don't want the connection of being in a relationship with someone else.They want independence outside of a relationship.They move towards the other value once they get one.As they get too close to someone, they move away.Control and spontaneity, freedom and responsibility, and novelty and stability are some of the other pairs.The person gets one more often than the other.
Step 11: It may stem from other issues.
A person may be sending signals that are unrelated to you.It could be that the person has problems in the past with other people.They may hold you at arm's length even when they want to be with you.Start a dialogue if you suspect this is the problem.I feel like you want to keep me at arm's length, but I sense that you really like me.Is there a reason you do that?
Step 12: Make sure you don't give mixed signals.
If a person feels like you're doing it to them, they will turn cold on you.If you accuse the other person of doing something, make sure you're not guilty.Try to think.Are you holding the person at arm's length?Is it possible to warm one day and then push the person away the next?Is it possible to cancel dates even if you don't have a good reason?
Step 13: Decide if you want to be with the person.
You might not have stopped to consider whether you want to be with that person or not, even though you were focused on the other person.To see whether or not the person is worth fighting for, check in with yourself to make sure you enjoy that person's company.Do you enjoy spending time with someone?Do you want to spend more time with the person?Are you interested in what the person thinks?Do you like their thoughts and opinions?The answers to these questions can help you make a decision.
Step 14: Look for a control freak.
If you're dating someone, you want to know if that person wants to control everything in your relationship.You can check for this trait by looking for someone who won't change their schedule or routine at all.If the person can roll with it, try changing a date again.Another sign that the person is not willing to compromise is this symptom.You probably want to leave this relationship.
Step 15: The person may want to spend time with you.
A person who loves you or at least likes you will want to spend time with you.They want to develop a relationship with you and will make time for you.If the person makes space for you in their lives, pay attention.Do they agree to the plans?To ask you out?Do you see them at least once a week?
Step 16: You want the person to show interest.
Everything isn't about you all the time.The person you're with should ask you about your day and what's going on in your life.They should ask your opinion so they can hear your side of the story.
Step 17: The person might laugh at your jokes.
If someone is attracted to you, they will usually laugh at your jokes.Not every joke will get a belly laugh, but most of the time, they should smile.
Step 18: It's a good idea to watch for perfectionists.
Many people have a streak of being perfect.It can be a problem if that person turns that streak on you.If the other person always looks for your flaws, that can be a sign that they don't want to commit.It's usually not about you, but the fact that they're not ready for sex.The person who tries to build you up is the opposite of this one.They want to make you feel good about yourself, and look for ways to compliment you.When someone criticizes you, it's a good idea to see how they respond.Does your boyfriend or girlfriend support you?
Step 19: Look at how they treat others.
At the beginning of the relationship, the person may be treating you just fine, while they treat other people with contempt and rudeness.The red flag tells you that they can turn that meanness on you and that you're not a good person to begin with.
Step 20: Pay attention to how close you are to each other.
A person who likes you will show their affection.Depending on your relationship, that doesn't have to mean sex or kissing.When you're next to each other, it can mean that the person will reach out and touch your arm.There are small signs that the person likes you.The opposite can sometimes be true.A person who doesn't want to touch you could mean the person is not attracted to you.It could be that the person has had some trauma in their past and that they have trouble with physical intimacy.