Are you stuck on a girl?Everybody goes through it.If you've been through a break-up or are trying to get over a crush that didn't work out, you can learn how to move on.It'll get better.
Step 1: Allow yourself to be sad, but only for a while.
It's not just for girls who get dumped to eat ice cream and watch tv.If you want to wallow around the house for a while, do it.No shame.Sometimes it's a necessary phase.If you don't let it go on for too long, it will become sad and whiny.Good rule of thumb?Each month you were together, let yourself grieve for a day.It takes longer if you let yourself get over her.
Step 2: Don't talk with her.
Stop talking with the girl if you've been dumped or broke it off.Keeping your distance is the key if you're stuck on someone.Stop texting with her.Don't call her.Don't talk to her on G-chat.All forms of communication should be stopped.You should keep it cool if you have to see this girl.Make your interactions brief and professional.Say something like "I don't have anything to say to you" if she keeps bothering you.She can befriended or blocked on social networking sites.Constantly checking your ex's page to see who she is talking to is pointless.That will only make it worse.
Step 3: Don't keep any pictures from your relationship.
Did your girlfriend give you that jersey?Get rid of itIs that the cute cards and notes she sent you?In the trash.There isn't much value in surrounding yourself with things that remind you of the person who hurt you.If you really like something that reminds you of your girlfriend, or you just don't want to get rid of it entirely, it's still a good idea to box it up and put it somewhere you cannot see.You can either give it to a friend or put it in a closet.
Step 4: Discuss how you're feeling with your friends.
Guys have a hard time talking about their feelings with their male friends.It's still good to just talk if most of your conversations are about sports, music, or hobbies.Bring up how you're feeling when you talk about something to distract yourself.Discuss it with your dad.He's probably been there, even though he might seem like a dinosaur.It's a good time to open up a little.If you need to talk to female friends, it's fine.You can talk to a sister, cousin, or friend.Either get advice or vent.
Step 5: Write it down.
Write about how you are feeling with a piece of paper and a pencil.You don't need to look at it when you're done, and nobody needs to read it.If you can't stop thinking about someone, try to write it out and then tear it up.Vent, then burn the evidence.If it helps you focus your attention, write her name at the top of the paper.Tell her what you wish you could do.Get rid of it.
Step 6: You can celebrate your freedom.
The break up is like a coin.There is loss and sadness on the one side.You're alone.You got dumped.Is it on the other?You're free.There's a lot to be said for being single and having options, even if you were happy in the relationship.When it feels right, kick up your heels.Sometimes it's necessary to go out for a dumb night with the boys.You don't have to ask permission.Think of something that you wouldn't have been allowed to do in your relationship.Do you want to eat ribs for breakfast and watch MMA at the same time?Don't do it.Even if you're hurting, be responsible.Abuse of alcohol, tobacco, and drugs is not an excuse for a break-up.
Step 7: Get moving.
It's no wonder that you're stuck on a girl if you only do padding around your room and moping.Start doing things when you get out of the house.This girl won't find something to occupy her time.There are tips on getting busy in the last section.
Step 8: Take a shot.
If you can't stop thinking about a girl, you should do something about it.Pining for someone who doesn't know you exist is worse than being turned down.You can move on if you know.Don't make it complicated.Don't use words.Go up to this girl and introduce yourself."Hey, I know this might seem random, but I've always noticed you."I like you a lot.Would you like to hang out?You can learn more about talking to girls by reading this article.
Step 9: Make new friends.
It can be difficult if you have a crush on someone you can't be with.It could be a girl who doesn't know you exist, or a friend who is already seeing someone.It's always a good idea to form new and different relationships with friends, and try to find the group you feel most comfortable around.Look for girls that you enjoy hanging out with, but aren't necessarily attracted to them.Younger people focus on looks.Get to know some girls and hang out.You'll learn a lot.You can hang out with a variety of people.Make some friends.Make some friends.Some friends from different families.
Step 10: Work on yourself.
Some people are focused on what someone else thinks.It's important to focus on forming your own identity and working on yourself when you're young.Do things that you enjoy.Throw yourself into your schoolwork.Have a good time with your friends.There's nothing wrong with enjoying your life.There is plenty of time for dating.Don't worry about these youth romances if you're young.It will get better.
Step 11: It's time to change up your priorities.
A lot of guys focus on popular girls when they're young.If you're stuck on a girl because she's pretty, social, or both, that is normal.It's usually not real.It's better to find people that are similar to you, and enjoy being around them.Sometimes it's not the super-attractive cheerleader type.If you want to make a genuine connection with someone, try to focus less on superficial things.Be friendly with people first.
Step 12: Don't worry about finding the one.
It can seem like you won't find anyone as perfect as this girl when you're young and fixed on love.Even if you're a teenager, it can seem like you will be alone forever.It's difficult to know what you want when you're young.Remember when you were a kid and obsessed with that toy?What do you think about it?When you get older, that's how you will feel about young relationships.
Step 13: You can crush on someone else.
It's the best way to move on from a crush that didn't work out.Who has your eye for?Who else is interesting, attractive, and engaging in your world?It's good to look inward when you're having fun.Enjoy time with your friends and family.There is plenty of time for romance.
Step 14: Start exercising.
Start using your body in positive ways to get both your mind and body under control.Go to the gym, the track, or the basketball court if you're stuck because of a girl.Get in shape by moving and working out.Get together with other people and play sports.You can play touch football, basketball, or other sports.All that energy should be turned into competition.If you don't like sports, you can do strength training on your own.Pick a few basic exercises that you can repeat.Many studies show that exercise reduces the risk of depression.Exercise is proven to make you feel better.
Step 15: Distract yourself from your job.
Whatever you do, do more.If you have a job, you should take on more responsibilities, spend more time on the job and be the best worker there.Throw yourself into your schoolwork if you're in school.Bettering yourself with activity will distract you.It might be a good idea to take some time off.Try to take a week off if you can't concentrate.Call in sick.If you want to get away from your responsibilities, go camping over the weekend.
Step 16: Go out more.
The chance to socialize more is available.Hang out with your family.Hit up a new bar and watch a movie.You can go to shows, go on hikes, or go out.Do anything that will get you out of the house.Try to hang out with other people as much as possible.It's a good idea to hang out with other people, who will be able to talk with you, and take your mind off things.If you feel ready, try to meet people.It's a challenge to chat up a stranger you're attracted to.It's a good exercise.
Step 17: Consider moving or making a big change.
It can be hard to stay in an apartment with a girl.It's annoying to see the same places where you always spend time together.If you can, find a new place.There is a new neighborhood on the other side of town.It's possible to split up different hangouts.Give your ex a coffee shop, but not another.Make a rule that the other can't go there.
Step 18: Pick up a hobby.
If you can't stop thinking about a girl, give yourself something new to think about.Pining over a girl is not one of the better uses of your time.Play guitar, make art, appreciate death metal, and make a model ship.