You are aware of the feeling.When you see the most amazing woman, you're out at a bar or a club.Something about her smile makes you want to get to know her better.You get nervous when you approach her.In extreme cases, you may forget your own name if you forget what to say.If you want to know how to pick up a woman without being nervous or shy, read this article.
Step 1: You should know when to approach.
Finding the right woman is the first step in picking up a woman.Whether she's bored with her current company or just looking for some fun, you should find a woman who is ready to talk to someone new.The more open a woman is, the more likely she is to succeed.If she is checking you out, you should go up to her.She is checking you out if she has looked at you more than once.If her friends are looking over at you and giggling, then she is checking you out.Get over there before it's too late.If she is not happy with her company.Maybe she's yawning when talking to a needy girlfriend, or she keeps rolling her eyes at the group of loud bros she showed up with.If you are a knight in shining armor, you can save her from her company.She will appreciate the change of pace if you read the situation correctly.Unless it's not going well, don't approach her.Don't allow her to have an intense lip-locking session with her man.If you're feeling bold, you can approach her when the guy steps out if he's spending more time checking his phone.If she's having an intense catch-up session with her girlfriend, don't approach.If she is in a large group of women, that is one thing, but if it is her and another friend, and they haven't scanned in the crowd in over an hour, she's probably getting some much-needed catch up time.
Step 2: You should approach her with confidence.
If she rejects you, your life won't be over, you need to show her that you love what you do, and you want to get to know her.It can be a big turnoff to come across as desperate or approval-seeking.Make your time with the girl count because most women will know if they want to go home with you within the first fifteen minutes.Make eye contact.Make eye contact from across the room.When you approach the woman, make sure to keep your eyes open.You don't have to be paranoid about it, but you should show that you're comfortable enough with the situation to look into her eyes instead of staring at the floor or your feet.There's a smile.Smiling will show that you're ok with the situation.You'll walk out with your head high even if she rejects you, because you're happy with who you are.Don't raise your arms over your chest.Anything can happen, so keep your body open.Give her your full attention.If you want to avoid distraction, turn your body toward her, and don't check your phone every five seconds.Dressing well is a part of looking confident.You don't have to spend a lot of money, but just wear a flattering outfit that fits well, and look like you've showered earlier in the day.
Step 3: Have a great opening.
You have to make sure you say the right thing when you meet the girl.You should make a good impression as soon as possible if you start off on the wrong foot.Relax, here's how to do it.She will know it in a second if you're not relaxed.The worst thing that can happen is that she rejects you.Can you survive that?Pick up lines should not be used.Unless you think she has a really silly sense of humor, don't pick up lines like, "You must be tired, because you've been running through my mind all night."Women don't appreciate your lack of creativity.It's clear that you're hitting on her.You might come across as someone looking for friendship, rather than a date, if you're indirect with your approach.If you want to avoid confusion, express your interest immediately.Would you like to sit with me?I would love to buy you a drink.Introduce yourself.If you want to be cute and formal, you need to tell her your name.
Step 4: She feels like the most amazing woman in the world.
Let's face it.People want to be special.Her lines should not be about how hot she is.Let her know that you think she is unique and authentic.Ask her questions about herself.Don't get personal.Ask her a few questions, like what she loves to do, if she likes her neighborhood, and her favorite sports teams or TV shows.You don't want to leave and have the girl think that he knows nothing about her.He wanted to talk to me because he thought I was hot.Ask her what she thinks about things.Show her that her opinion is important.Ask her what she thinks of the cocktails at the bar you're at, or if she likes your new shoes.Don't be afraid to compliment her even if she's not used to it.Tell her if she is beautiful, interesting, or has a sense of humor.You won't overwhelm her if you're casual and honest.
Step 5: Give her a hug.
If you want to pick up a woman, you need to make her enjoy talking to you and think, "Hey, this is awesome -- I want more of this."Talking about yourself will help her see how great you are.If you want to learn more about her, you can use whatever you're talking about.Show her what makes you unique.Tell her at least two or three things that will make her want to get to know you.Did you spend a year on a motorcycle in Rio or did you teach yourself Japanese?Make a point to mention that.There are some common bonds.Whether it's your love for Mexican food or college basketball, you can talk about it."I love talking to this guy, but I don't think it'll go anywhere because we do not have anything in common."Tell her something interesting.Show her that you know what's going on in the world by reading the paper.Tell her a random fact that caught her attention recently.
Step 6: To a point, be yourself.
You should show her who you really are instead of putting up a fake front, but you should also tone down the more unique parts of your personality until she gets to know you better, or she will throw you off.Don't be a poser.You should act like you don't get a lot of women.If you want to know her, be a cool guy.Don't talk about the other girls in your life or she'll think, why is he talking to me?Show her who you are.Tell her about your interests, what you do on the weekends, or about the awesome trip you took with your friends.The girl should know who you are besides the guy hitting on her.You are not with your bros.She can get to know you later, so don't let the jokes or stories make you look bad.
Step 7: Charm her with your sense of humor.
Guys who can make women laugh are popular with women.She'll have a good time with you if you show her that you're funny.She just feels sorry for you, so don't make her think you're trying too hard.Keep up the witty banter.Don't say, "That's so funny" if she says something funny.You can keep up if you fire back something funny.Remove the tea from her.If you tease them the right way, they will love you.You can tease her about her laugh or poke fun at something she says.This will make your relationship more playful.Make fun of yourself.Don't be self-deprecating, but show that you're capable of laughing at yourself.
Step 8: Know when you are not welcome.
Knowing when you are not wanted is part of making a graceful exit.There are a variety of reasons.Maybe the girl is not interested in you.That's alright.She might not want to waste your time.She might just want to spend time with her friends.Once you get the sense it's time to leave, get going.It's time to leave if the conversation doesn't go well and the girl is checking her phone or looking around.It's time to leave if her friends stare at you or ignore you.Don't say "Well, it looks like you're just not interested" or "Sorry to bother you" when you know it's time to leave.Say, "Hey, it was great talking to you."I'll see you later.Even if you're disappointed, walk out with a smile on your face.If she's laughing a lot, maintaining eye contact, playing with her hair, and just generally looking like she is having a great time talking to you and wants more, it is time to step it up.
Step 9: Take it to the next level if it's going well.
If you clicked during the conversation and the girl is into you, then it's time to take it to the next level.Are you trying to pick up the woman?So what are you waiting for?You can say, "How about we go somewhere more private to talk?" if you're at a bar or nightclub and things are winding down."What do you say we get out of here?"If you know the girl wants to keep hanging out but you don't want to turn her off by isolating her, ask her if she and her friends would like to go to a quieter bar or an after party.She may not want to get down on the first night after meeting you.Get her number if you don't want to ask her to come with you.Don't worry.Make it clear that you're asking her out."Hey, this has been a great conversation, and I'd love to talk to you more over drinks or dinner."Is it possible to set that up with your number?