Being involved with more than one person in an open and honest way is called polyamory.Polyamorous people may date or live with multiple partners and be in love with more than one person at a time.Rules and guidelines are needed to practice polyamory.You will need to manage your time so that you can connect with your partners equally.All of your relationships are healthy and loving if you communicate and listen to your partners needs.
Step 1: In a private setting, raise the idea of polyamory with your partner.
Bring up the subject of polyamory with your partner if you are in a monogamous relationship.After dinner or before bed is a good time to chat with your partner.Tell the truth about the idea.Tell us why you want the relationship to be polyamorous.Before you talk to your partner, think about your reasons.There are a few valid reasons to bring up the idea.You could say, "Listen, I've been thinking about this for a long time and what would you think about being polyamorous?"I love you and want to be with you, but I think it's a good idea for us to see other people.
Step 2: Explain how guidelines and rules would be set.
You can tell your partner that there is no right way to be polyamorous and that you would both have to agree on boundaries.For example, you could say, "We can decide how our relationship works, and we would work together to make it work for us."
Step 3: It's a good idea to give your partner time to think about being polyamorous.
It may take some time for your partner to accept the idea of being polyamorous.Give them time to think about it.Do not force them.
Step 4: Discuss your options if your partner says no.
If they say "no" to being polyamorous, try not to make them feel bad.It should only be done if both partners in a monogamous relationship agree to it.You can discuss the status of your relationship with your partner.If you need time apart, consider the relationship.You can say to your partner, "I appreciate you being honest with me."Let's work on our relationship as a monogamous couple, I understand that you are not comfortable with the idea of polyamorous.Can we discuss the status of our relationship?
Step 5: Inform your partners about people you are seeing.
Being honest with your partners is a big part of being polyamorous.If you are in a committed relationship and want to be polyamorous, you should sit down with your partner and agree that you will tell each other about other people.When you tell your partner about other partners, how much detail will you give?You can tell your partner anything they want to know about your other partners, from their name to how often you see them.Both of you agree to be open to interacting with other partners as a couple and as individuals.Clear rules should be established with your other partners if you are not in a committed relationship.You should outline them with each partner.
Step 6: Try the policy of not telling.
Some polyamorous people agree to have a policy in which they don't reveal the details of their other partners.They agree to trust one another and give each other the freedom to see who they want.Some people prefer this if they don't want to know about their other relationships.You can always sit down with your partners and discuss being more open with this information if you become uncomfortable with the policy.
Step 7: Discuss when you will tell others you are polyamorous.
If you agree, you can say you are polyamorous with a potential partner.Keeping things transparent and being honest with the potential partner will be ensured by this.You can say to potential partners, "I want you to know before we go further that I'm in a polyamorous relationship with my primary partner."We are open to being with other people and maintaining multiple relationships.This means I am intimate with other people at once and am not monogamous with one person.Make sure your other partners know that you don't want to be monogamous with them at any point in the relationship.
Step 8: Determine if the polyamory is sexual, emotional, or both.
Some people have relationships that are not strictly sexual.Some people have partners that they connect to emotionally and sexually.Discuss what you and your partner are comfortable with.If you are honest about what you want from other relationships, the boundaries can be clear.You and your partner may agree to only have other relationships that are satisfying.It is possible that the emotional aspects of a relationship are limited to you and your partner.You and your partner may agree to have other relationships that are sexual and emotional.
Step 9: Discuss any relationship areas that are out of bounds.
If you don't want others to have access to certain areas of your relationship, you should tell your primary partner.If you have children, you may both agree to keep your other partners separate.If you both own a home, you may agree to be with other partners outside of your shared home.Polyamorous people will keep the boundaries open to encourage their other partners to feel welcome.Others may loosen their boundaries over time.Do what makes sense for you and your partners.
Step 10: Schedule time to see your partner.
You can schedule in time with your partners by using a calendar on your phone or a dayplanner.If you are part of a polyamorous couple, you may plan your dates away from your primary partner on the same night so that one of you is not left alone at home.Sharing a main calendar online with your partners will allow you to communicate and organize the schedule together.Things will be transparent and honest with this.
Step 11: Try to spend time with your partner.
If you are part of a couple, you can agree to spend the majority of your time with your primary partner, and then equal amounts of time on the weekends and certain weeknights.Some nights or days may be reserved for your other partners.If you can spread your time equally among your partners, that would be great.You can have certain days of the week where you only spend time with one partner, or you can alternate weekends with different partners.
Step 12: It's a good idea to plan different activities for your partners.
Think about how you can enrich each relationship by treating each partner like an individual.Dates that suit each partner are arranged.Plan quality time with each partner.Make sure the time you spend with each partner is enjoyable for you both.You can arrange a night out on the town with one partner who likes to be social.You can arrange a night in and go out with someone who likes to hang out at home.Quality time with each partner is what you should do.It can be expensive to go all out when you see a lot of people.Make the time with your partner meaningful.
Step 13: Ask your partners to spend time together.
Some people are okay with their partners seeing each other as friends.Some people encourage their partners to be with each other on a romantic or sexual level.It's up to you and your partners.It may be easier to see multiple people if you know each other.You can introduce your partners to one another at a party.You can introduce them to your partner more formally by bringing them home.Before you introduce your other partners, make sure you talk to your primary partner first.
Step 14: You should be honest with your partners.
A successful polyamorous relationship involves transparency, honesty, and trust.Do not lie about your relationship with your partner.All of your partners should know what the boundaries and rules are.
Step 15: Accept that you may be jealous of other partners.
It's normal to be possessive of your partners if they are polyamorous as well.Accept and acknowledge your feelings of jealousy.You should be prepared for your partner's jealousy as well.If you are struggling with these feelings, you should tell your partner.It is possible to accept and move past your feelings by discussing it openly.
Step 16: It is possible to perform "compersion" with your partners.
Compersion is a feeling of joy you get when your partner is well loved by another.It is experienced by many polyamorous people.As you get used to being with multiple people at once, it develops naturally.When your primary partner is appreciated by another partner in a loving way, you may feel compersion.When one of your partners is being given affection by another partner, you may feel compersion.
Step 17: Sex with your partners should be positive.
Sex positive means communicating your needs to your sexual partners.Asking for what you want and being open to responding to the needs of your partners is what it means.Being sex positive will ensure that your sexual relationships are healthy and fulfilling because you may have multiple sexual partners.Being sex positive also means communicating when you don't want to engage in sexual activity.You should respect the sexual boundaries of your partners and not force them to do things they don't want to.
Step 18: You should practice safe sex with your partners.
Condoms or birth control should be used with your partners.Before having sex with your partner, you should always be tested for STDs.Before engaging in sexual acts with your partner, confirm that they have been tested and are using protection.Openly discuss safe sex with your partners.It's a good idea to discuss it with your partners before having sex so you can all be safe.
Step 19: You can connect with people who practice polyamory.
You can find polyamory groups or chapters in your area.People in polyamorous relationships can join social media groups.You can connect with others who share your approach to relationships by talking to friends who are in open relationships.