It can be awkward to start a conversation with your girlfriend.There are many ways to keep your communication fresh.When talking to her, try to be curious and interested.Pick a time every day to talk.Asking her questions requires more than simple yes or no responses.You can express your interest by asking follow-up questions and sharing related experiences.Small talk can lead to more meaningful topics.Discuss your relationship and your dreams with her.Don't put off tough topics, and start a difficult conversation by stating your feelings clearly.
Step 1: It's a good idea to choose a time to talk.
Have a conversation with your girlfriend every day.If you have a phone or face-to-face conversation, try to find a daily time to devote your full attention to each other.When having a conversation with your girlfriend, don't check your phone, surf the web, or watch television.Distractions aren't only technological.If you need time to zone out after school or work, give each other some space before starting a conversation.
Step 2: Ask questions about her day.
Don't ask questions that are simple yes or no answers.Ask her about her day, and show your interest in learning more about it.Ask her what she did today.What did you think about your presentation?What is the most unique thing that happened to you today?Asking your girlfriend about her job is a great way to start a conversation.People like talking about work.
Step 3: Don't come off as insincere or intrusive.
Instead of asking questions about things you already know, try to let your curiosity carry the conversation.Asking detailed questions doesn't have to be intrusive.Don't ask her questions in a way that makes her feel paranoid.If she seems annoyed or asks, "Why do you want to know?" make your intentions clear.
Step 4: You can respond with clear interest or support.
You should make eye contact and nod to show you are interested.Listen to what she says, ask a follow-up question, tell her you support a decision she made, or share something about yourself that conveys you.Maintaining a good relationship requires you to express your interest and support.
Step 5: Tell us about your experience.
Talking about yourself will keep the conversation balanced.If you want to identity with her experiences, try not to change the subject when you talk about yourself.A relevant experience you shared is a great way to strengthen your conversation.If she says something negative, like that she got splashed by a car while walking down the sidewalk, you could say, "Oh man, I'm sorry, dude."The first time we went to the park in your neighborhood, it was raining.We got soaked, but I still laugh at the thought of us holding hands and running to get out of the rain.
Step 6: You should support your girlfriend.
If she talks about emotionally charged topics, make sure to be supportive of her.If she tells you about a fight she had with her best friend, listen to her and let her know you are there for her.Say something like, "That's awful!"I am sorry that you had to go through that.What can I do?
Step 7: Warm up with a small talk.
It could make your girlfriend feel like you are putting her on the spot if you start a conversation with forced conversation starters.Let the conversation progress into deeper topics if you try to engage her in small talk.You can start by talking about your days at school or work.You could ask her, "If you could change anything about your day, what would it be?"
Step 8: Ask her about her future plans.
Getting to know how your girlfriend thinks about the future will help you understand the longevity of your relationship.Understanding her hopes and dreams early on will help you get to know her better.Knowing each other's future plans will help you decide if you are compatible in the long run.Where do you see yourself in five years?What is your dream job?Do you want to have a family?Think about your own answers to these questions and share them with your girlfriend.Don't question her.If you want to share your own questions, try to keep the conversation two-sided.
Step 9: Talk about your relationship.
Discuss the status of your relationship with each other.Ask your girlfriend questions about how your relationship has evolved over time.What was the first thing that made you want to start dating?What have you noticed about me since we started dating?What strengths and weaknesses do I have as a partner?Where can I improve?
Step 10: When talking about your relationship, keep the calm tone.
When talking about your relationship, try to keep it calm.Don't take things personally if you identify areas where you can both be better partners.Don't criticize each other, focus on building a stronger relationship.Please don't think I'm just being critical for the sake of it if you want to tell your girlfriend about something.I care about you and your relationship, and I want you to have the best partnership possible.If your girlfriend lets you know about something you can work on, take responsibility for it and ask for more information about how to be a better partner.
Step 11: You can use your body language to convey your interest.
Maintaining eye contact and nodding at appropriate moments is an essential way to convey your interest and attention.Don't slouch so much that you seem bored or disinterested, try to keep your body relaxed.You should keep your arms and legs uncrossed, face the other person, and sit or stand at the same level so neither of you looks down.You can come across as more confident and attractive by having good eye contact.If it feels right for the conversation, smile every once in a while.Smiling too much can be seen as insincere.
Step 12: Don't put off tough topics.
It might be easier to let things work themselves out and not have a hard conversation.It makes things worse if you avoid a tough topic.Asking her to set aside time to talk about an issue would be better.I am aware that you are upset about what I did the other day.It would be great if we could take some time to talk about it, but keep in mind that putting off difficult issues will only make matters worse over time and end up poisoning the relationship.Tell her, "I want to have a calm, open conversation about the issues we've been having," or "There's something I need to talk to you about, and I hope you'll keep an open mind."
Step 13: You should share your feelings openly.
You should try to recognize when you are stonewalling or not opening up to your girlfriend.Explain your reasons to her.I know I have been closing myself off to you.I think it is a defense mechanism.I hope you can be patient with me as I work through this.
Step 14: If she resists opening up, don't pressure her.
Don't take it personally if she's not opening up.Don't put her on the spot or give up.If she closes herself off to you, be detached and understanding.I don't want to put too much pressure on you to talk about your feelings.I hope we can get to a point where you trust me with your feelings.We can talk about anything with each other.
Step 15: Share your intentions and goals in a clear and honest way.
Don't shy around the topic when you are having a difficult conversation.From the beginning, share your intentions clearly and confidently, whether you want to talk about becoming more intimate or work through a problem.I would like to discuss taking our relationship to the next step.What do you think about being intimate with each other?Can we talk about when we hung out with your friends last night?I was left out.I don't want to keep you from socializing, but maybe you can help me relate to your friends more when we hang out with them.