It is possible to make other people happy.People will gravitate towards you because you seem charismatic.Show the people around you that you care by keeping them happy.Listen more and ask questions when talking to people.Remember the details of their lives to make them feel important.Maintaining a positive attitude and good sense of humor is important.The people around you feel these feelings.
Step 1: You should listen more than speak.
Don't try to dominate conversations.People will feel like you are talking at them if you do all the talking.Allow other people to talk and give input when they are done.This makes you look like you care about other people.A person is speaking.People don't like being cut off.They should always finish what they are saying.Answer questions if the person asks them.Don't just look for the next time you can talk about yourself.Allow other people to talk.
Step 2: Ask questions about the person.
Asking the other person about themselves is a good way to keep conversations going.Give people the chance to talk about themselves.They will like talking to someone who listens.People feel like you care about them when you say, "How are you doing today?"Asking superficial questions is not a good idea.You should ask questions based on what the person was saying.If someone tells you that they got a flat tire while on vacation, you will notice that you are paying attention to the story.
Step 3: When speaking with people, look away from your phone and computer.
Don't look distracted while talking.Constantly checking your phone or computer makes you look disinterested.Look away from the computer when you put your phone down.You should make eye contact with the person.If you are busy and don't have time to talk, excuse yourself and say, "Sorry, I have to check this for one second."I have a work call to make so I would love to talk more.I will see you later.
Step 4: You should be enthusiastic about what they say.
When someone tells you something, get excited.Congratulate them if they share a piece of good news.A simple, "That's great!" will make them feel like they accomplished something and that you care about it.People are shy when you compliment them.You can follow up with "Well just know I'm happy for you" if they say something like, "Oh, it's no big deal."
Step 5: If the other person gives you a compliment, return it.
Someone may compliment you in a conversation.After thanking them sincerely for the compliment, return a compliment.You look generous and gracious at the same time.A coworker might say that you offered a great idea in the meeting.You could say, "Thanks, I'm glad you liked it."I am sure you can pull it off.
Step 6: Do not criticize their opinions.
You will disagree with people on their beliefs.Don't criticize them and keep the conversation friendly.Allow them to speak their minds.They will continue to feel safe and happy talking to you.You can still speak your mind.Just saying, "That's not the way I see it, but I get your point," shows that you disagree but also gives the other person credit.If you want to avoid confrontation altogether, you can just ignore their opinion.
Step 7: There are details about people's lives.
This is a great way to connect with people and show them you care about what they are saying.It will seem like you aren't listening to them if you forget things.To increase your connection with the person, remember the details they have told you.Ask about the details.Someone might tell you on Friday that they are going to a concert.Ask how the concert was if you see them on Monday.This shows that you care about them.Do some exercises to improve your memory.
Step 8: You can show your interest with non-verbal signals.
Body language and mannerisms show a person you are paying attention to.Nodding, making eye contact, and changing your facial expression show the person that you are invested in what they say.Don't be unresponsive or firm.You don't care about the conversation.If someone tells you a story, make a face and widen your eyes.They will feel invested in the story.You can do this when you are not talking to someone.If a coworker is giving a presentation in a conference room, look at them.Take notes when they make a good point.The person speaking feels important and they will appreciate it.
Step 9: Praise in moderation.
It is a great way to make someone feel important.Don't compliment other people too much.Your praise won't look genuine if you constantly compliment everyone.When you compliment people, be sincere.Don't compliment the person after they've already acknowledged your compliment.Don't say, "No but really, you did a great job" if they say thank you.
Step 10: They should be brought attention to their accomplishments.
Compliments can also be private.Let other people know if you know someone who accomplished something.The person will be happy to see other people taking their accomplishments seriously.This isn't a grand gesture.You might say, "I would like to thank John for doing a great job on these figures here." without thinking about it.If someone asks you to keep quiet, respect their wishes.They might want to be the one to tell someone, or they might be shy about it.
Step 11: If a person does something for you, write thank you notes.
Another way to show people that they are important is to make them feel appreciated.If someone helps you out, give them a genuine thank you note or email.Let them know you appreciate how they helped you.Thank you for your work as well.If you can locate the person, thank them.It shows you went out of your way for them when you said, "I just wanted to drop by and say thanks for that favor you did."A phone call is great if you can't find the person.
Step 12: Gossiping and talking about other people is bad.
Spreading gossip creates a hostile environment.Less people will want to interact with you if you have a reputation for doing this.If you stay away from gossiping, people will feel more comfortable talking to you.They will be happy around you.This is a good situation in which to think about the Golden Rule.Do you want someone to spread rumors about you?Probably not.Spread rumors about other people.
Step 13: You should treat people the way you want to be treated.
This is called the Golden Rule for a reason.Think about what makes you happy.The people should be treated accordingly.You will be a much friendlier person if you live by this code.If you were talking to someone, you might make fun of them for liking a certain band.If someone did that to you, would you be happy?Probably not.Reconsider your actions and apologize.
Step 14: Look happy.
Smiling makes you feel positive and helps people around you do the same.Make a conscious effort to smile.People are more likely to talk to you if you are friendlier.When you greet people, smile.It's easy to spread more positive feelings.Don't try to make your smile bigger.This will not be real.You look bright when you turn the corners of your lips up.
Step 15: Have a sense of humor.
A sense of humor helps reduce stress.If you are a fun person, people will gravitate towards you.Try to make other people happy.Positive energy will spread around you and people will appreciate it.Having a sense of humor is more than just telling jokes.It is more about having fun with things.If there is a bright side to something, try to find it.When other people are feeling down, be the person that stays optimistic.You should always know the limits of your humor.Tell jokes that are appropriate.Tone it down if people don't like your antics.