You will not always be interested in pursuing a relationship with the girls you meet.It is important to learn how to reject a girl in a kind way.Don't be rude when you say no, you do not want to hurt her.If being straightforward doesn't work, try some indirect approaches.
Step 1: Tell her that you like what she's doing.
If you have to reject a girl, you don't want to be rude.Make sure to mention you are flattered when you say something to her.Even if you're not interested in accepting her offer, tell her you respect her courage.She can keep her dignity even in the face of rejection if you show her respect and appreciate how hard it was to approach you.Say something like, "I am flattered that you are interested in me."I am grateful for your bravery in telling me how you feel.
Step 2: Take responsibility for your answer by using "I" statements.
It is tempting to blame her for asking you out or showing interest in you.Take responsibility with statements that focus on yourself.She feels attacked and belittled when the blame is put on her.Keeping it friendly and not hurting her feelings is what this is all about.You look bad if you say, "You're not pretty enough for me to be attracted to you."It's been fun getting to know you, but I'm not looking for a relationship, so please don't take it personally.
Step 3: If you aren't feeling a connection, reject her early on.
You don't want to string her along past the point where you're not interested.When you let her down, she will continue to develop feelings for you.It is better to cut her off early than to keep her.This is better than telling her that you aren't interested in her and making her think you are interested for a long time.I don't want to pursue this relationship any further, so I'm sorry if it feels like I have not given you a chance.
Step 4: You should be direct when you turn her down.
It is important for you to make it clear that you are saying no to her.Things can happen later on if you say something vague.She knows you are rejecting her, so always answer her directly.Thanks for asking is an example of not saying anything.I don't know, but maybe it will work out at some point.It feels good that you're interested in me, but I don't feel the same.I have to say no thanks to your offer.
Step 5: You shouldn't make excuses for your answer.
It is not necessary to give a reason when you reject her.She may think that it is temporary if you give a specific reason.Stick to letting her down without a specific reason, unless you really have a reason.I don't think I want to date right now.You would be free to engage in a relationship later on if you started this new job.She may try to convince you, if you say, "I don't like to date friends."Say, "I'm going to have to pass."Thank you for the offer.
Step 6: You should not offer alternatives if you don't want to.
You might be tempted to ask if she wants to be friends or not.Don't do this.Don't come up with something to make her feel better, if you know you're not interested in the way she is.Allow your no to be a no.You meet a girl at a party and she asks you out on a date for the next weekend.If you chat with a girl at a bar, say, "It's been fun talking to you, but I'm not interested."
Step 7: You should talk about another girl with her.
Get her to leave you alone on her own if you can't make the direct approach work.Mention another girl you met recently or ask about an attractive friend.She might leave you alone if she gets mad at you.Say, "Hey, when we were at the bar the other day, who was the hot girl in the blue dress that was with you?" Essentially hitting on her friend might drive her away."Another way to do this is to say, "I have been talking to this girl Lucy for about a week."It's crazy how much we have in common.
Step 8: Tell her you want to set her up with a friend.
Mention a friend she should meet if you just met or have been talking for awhile.Tell him how much he and the girl have in common.She may think that you aren't interested in her.I have been meaning to introduce you to my friend.He talks about fitness the same way you do.You two should go out.
Step 9: Ignore her phone calls.
You can always ignore her if you can't face her to tell her how you feel.It may cause you problems, but it is an option.Do not answer her calls, texts, or other forms of communication.Digital communication with her should be completely stopped.She will most likely leave you alone if she keeps contacting you and she commits to ignoring you.This approach is rude but effective.
Step 10: In person, give her the silent treatment.
You should stop talking to the girl if you see her in common places.You might keep her around because you are willing to talk to her.If you see her again the next time, be silent.Understand how difficult this will be.She could get angry, insult you, or show you that she hates you.It is not going to be pleasant most of the time.This will be seen as rude by people.Make sure this is your last resort.Before giving her a silent treatment, try to let her down with other methods.